I used to think that I always gave people the benefit of the doubt. My natural default was to be extremely optimistic and always see the good in people. However, I have learned that, often, unbeknownst to me, my automatic response wasn’t what I thought it was. Maybe you can relate.   Tune in this week to discover what it really means to give the benefit of the doubt, why it’s important, and how to practice giving the benefit of the doubt as a habit for yourself. I share 10 benefits of giving the benefit of the doubt more regularly, and you’ll learn how to practice building this as a habit ..read more

One of the most infuriating things that I’ve personally experienced, and my clients experience, is that feeling of being reactive, particularly to the people you’re closest with, like your family or colleagues. Feeling reactionary can make you feel like you’re out of control.   So, what can you do about your tendency to react? If you feel like you’re reacting without intentionality, this episode is for you. In this episode, I share an idea and a tool to help you reduce your reactivity, and assist you in understanding what’s going on when you get into a reactive space.   Get the full ..read more

Any control freaks listening out there? Maybe you consider yourself more of a control enthusiast? If you loathe when things don’t go according to plan, you severely dislike disorganization and chaos, and you enjoy controlling everything in your life, welcome to the club, and welcome to this episode of Habits on Purpose.   Tune in this week to hear me unpack the habit of being a control enthusiast. I shed some light on the many things you can’t control, the few things you can control, and you’ll learn how this habit is impacting your experience of your life, and what you can do to change i ..read more

If you have a conversation with someone and there is silence, how often do you make this mean that they don’t like you, or you have annoyed them, or that you must have done something wrong? When you draw conclusions, you place something in a context and give it meaning, often based on past events and circumstances. Sometimes this meaning can be useful but other times it will weigh you down and make you feel stuck. So how do you go from meaning-making that is not useful yet has been repeated for decades to meaning-making that actually serves you?   I show you how to start paying atten ..read more

To shoehorn is to force or compress something into an insufficient space, or an insufficient period of time. What does this look like when it comes to your habits? When you shoehorn, you’re working hard to fit a lot of tasks into a span of time where they really don’t fit.   Tune in this week to discover why shoehorning might be a good idea sometimes, but at other times, your shoehorning habit has you compromising in your life. I’m discussing how shoehorning plays into time scarcity, how something stressful like shoehorning becomes a habit in the first place, and you’ll learn the true cos ..read more

If you have a goal in your life, adjusting your habits is the best way to start taking the steps towards where you want to go. However, there are some classic habit-building mistakes I see people making when trying to adopt new habits, and you’ll learn how to avoid them by listening in this week.   Tune in this week to discover the most common habit-changing mistakes, and how to avoid them. You’ll learn why you’re making these mistakes in pursuit of new habits, the foundational elements of making sustainable change to your habits, and I’m sharing how to see where you are right now, as wel ..read more

How much time do you spend trying to do thing you know you aren’t good at? What if your habit could be doing more of what you’re good at, instead of spending your time and energy trying to overcome your weaknesses?   Tune in today to discover how to start focusing on what comes easiest to you, and save time on the things you find hardest. You’ll learn why spending your time trying to improve your weaknesses isn’t what life is about, and I’m giving you some vital tips for doing more of what you love and what comes naturally to you.   Get the full show notes and more information here ..read more

For some of us, it’s been a long time since we were a beginner at something. Sometimes, being new is exciting and the learning process can feel super fun. But oftentimes, being new at something is the opposite of fun.    Tune in this week to discover why being a beginner isn’t easy, and a brilliant technique for what to do in these not-so-easy times. I’m showing you how to use a concept called FFT when you find yourself frustrated in an awkward, clunky learning process.    Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/109   ..read more

You might think that diluting the significance of a challenge you’ve faced and shrugging off your lived experience of a difficult situation is harmless. However, it’s an insidious habit that has a huge impact on your emotional experience of life, so it’s time to get clear on what you can do about it.   Tune in this week to discover where you’re minimizing the difficulties you’ve faced. I’m discussing how it looks when we’re dismissing life’s challenges, and you’ll learn how to notice your tendency to do this.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonp ..read more

In our lives, it can sometimes feel like something’s missing. However, we often have difficulty working out where this feeling of longing is coming from.    So, what are you missing out on, and why are you missing out on it? In this weeks episode I’m giving you simple, actionable tips to see what’s missing in your life and I'm showing you how to change course if necessary. You’ll also learn why what you think is missing could actually already be part of your life, if you choose to see it.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/107 ..read more