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I have an aunt who takes care of my grandma and took care of my grandpa before he passed away. (Grandma has dementia, grandpa had alztimers.) There is a lot of information here I could include, but I dont want to create bias- so I'll give my point of view only. My aunt lives with my grandma. She moved in after living with other family due to losing her home from divorce and gambling addiction ( I say this so it's known that it was less of a choice.) My mom has started to go help her care for my grandma (we live 2 states away) every other month or so for a month. What I see is emotional neglec ..read more

Doing this shit for 15 years has me so depressed…I don’t even know what I want to do with life anymore….life at this point is all about coping. People who say they want to start families and bullshit like that have no idea how horrible caregiving is. Kind of just want to leave and be homeless or kill myself. I’m starting to lose my empathy and I legit hate everybody. No amount of therapy or drugs will make me see life or humans as beautiful…now I want to do drink or do drugs again to cope. submitted by /u/Saucy_Tuna [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Its been almost 3 months since the stroke and I feel like I'm out of ideas on how to make her better. Plavix non responder? Change antiplatet. Let's try inpatient rehab but plagued by UTIs? Let's find the right IV antibiotic. Okay, lets try discharging home to see if familiarity will help. Slide totally in hallucinations instead? Okay lets readmit have a psychic eval and try four different antipyschotics. Ok, now lets try skilled nursing rehab. Fight with docs and insurance to get that to happen. I see the therapist trying to help and her just being too tired to participate. I dont know what ..read more

I'm f/30s, living with my parents to look after my mom. Dad needs no care but does not help with mom. My mom gets really upset if I leave my dad alone, but there's no physical reason he can't be left alone. Mom spends a lot of time in the bathroom, which often leaves my dad and I to eat dinner together. But as a 30-something-year-old woman, sometimes I don't want to eat dinner with my father. Especially when I've been doing it every single night for years. If I make his food for him and then leave the kitchen, my mom gets very mad. She says it's "rude and disrespectful" to leave my dad alone ..read more

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I know I’ll prolly complain a lot but I don’t have anybody else to talk to so here’s my outlet I guess. I’m her caregiver and she has a lot of health problems on top of ptsd and other things. Sometimes I just get mentally tired of her and I snap at her cuz some days are worse then others. I know I shouldn’t cuz it’s just going to piss her off and it’s going to cause a fight but some days are really hard. I try to pay for as much bills and buy her stuff to make her like me in the hopes she won’t start on me. I’m either with her or talking to her or txting her from 5:30 in the morning or 9:30 a ..read more

I just cared for my husband's stepmother in the last weeks of her battle with a very aggressive cancer. On top of that, his dad had a severe stroke in February, and he's so incapacitated (can't speak, can't use his right side, can't eat, on a ventilator, etc.) that he can't manage his own affairs, so my husband and I had to petition the court for legal guardianship of his person and his estate (he had a durable POA, but it listed his wife as his agent with no backup in case she died or became incapacitated, which has created a whole mess). On some days, the caregiving itself isn't as hard as ..read more

I recently moved in with my dad and grandma. My dad has been caregiving for her for the past 2 years after my grandpa passed. My dad works full time 40+ hours a week and he needed help. The house was/is so dirty. I moved in to help with cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. I don’t know how he’s done it on his own this long. I’m already losing my mind. For some context my grandma is 82, we live in her house. She’s still capable of very basic things, using the bathroom, buttering toast, using fork & knife. But nothing complex like using the oven, stovetop, laundry. Now that I’ve moved in i don ..read more