Lowering your standards to try & find a husband is inane… Imagine having children & being STUCK with a loser for the rest of your life ..read more

Angiebaby, I think you were not too harsh. I needed a slap of reality. Maddie thank you for the advice. Ewa – no I have not met him since he lives in Australia. Liz Lemon – You are right about keeping it local. I could not find what I liked so I started looking more long distance as dating long distance and overseas is normal in my culture. I agree that I got caught up in a fantasy. Tallspicy – hard to hear but you are totally on point. Khadija – Yes, I have lowered my standards over the years to try to get married but I need to improve them ..read more

You were not in a relationship with this man, let’s clear that up first. This was a pen pal. Secondly, really read what you wrote and think about why you got involved in that mess to begin with. Please work on your standards or you’ll end up disappointed time and time again ..read more

Long distance like this is not a relationship, what is going on in your life that you would talk 3-5 hours a day with a random stranger? You both are not emotionally healthy. Clear up your own emotional unavailability and you won’t be attracted to this anymore ..read more

I just re-read what I wrote and I think it might come across as a lot more harsh and critical than I meant it. It was just so obvious what a good job you did of spotting the red flags early that I was kind of amazed you felt you needed to second guess yourself when you 100% got it right and cut him off early ..read more

He lives overseas and you’ve never even met, right? I think Angiebaby and Maddie have given great advice. You shouldn’t doubt yourself. You also shouldn’t get romantically attached to long distance guys that you’ve never even met. That’s a sign of emotional unavailability in yourself. Because like Maddie said, the situation is totally based on fantasy and not on real life interactions with someone in person. That’s why it’s so painful for you now– you’re missing the fantasy that you built up in your head. But you haven’t actually lost anything, because what you imagined in your head was never ..read more

have you even met this guy in real life ..read more

I stopped reading at Andrew Tate. There’s no reason for you to doubt your instincts or second-guess yourself. But you will need to find other ways to fill your time that don’t rely on getting caught up in conversation with a long-distance stranger. There’s some amount of fantasy to get lost in in that, which is why he seemed great at the very first, but you almost immediately realized he isn’t actually once you spoke enough and got to know him a little better. Think about why you wanted to get swept up enough to entertain him and why you’re second-guessing yourself now, even though to your gre ..read more

He can say whatever he wants in an online profile. Doesn’t make it true or mean he’s able to follow through. What is true is what Jane said. He’s controlling and not someone you want to be in a relationship if he’s trying to dictate to you what to look like down to your TOENAILS the first time you even meet. Great, sounds like he has a foot fetish or wants to be a dom. Unless you’re all about being treated like trash, cut this guy out and hide his bumble profile so it doesn’t distract you in the future when you’re looking through for more worthwhile men ..read more

Really????? You have to ask strangers on the internet to validate this decision? WHY are you second guessing yourself? This man is a NIGHTMARE. I feel sorry for his child. And any man mentions Andrew Tate in front of me and I’m out of there permanently. It’s not healthy to talk with someone you barely know for 3-5 hours a day. You got codependent very quickly. Don’t do that again. I am glad though that you saw the red flags and walked away at only 6 weeks in ..read more