from my experience: women are wired to be with a man they have sex with, it’s our hormones. As long as you know this that the attachment isn’t love but hormones , it might be a bit easier. For me it worked to have minimal contact between meet ups , no texting , not trying to get to know this person. Only texting to see if they want to meet. Also what helped me before to separate my feelings, I try to find something I don’t like about this person, something that makes him not a relationship material, maybe something in his past or his future plans etc. Another thing that works for me is when th ..read more

How long have you been divorced? How do you know this guy? Having a FWB is a slippery slope & not everyone can navigate successfully. Why this guy ..read more

Who initiates the hangouts (primarily physical encounters + some good conversation)? No expectations, but I do want to keep seeing him and getting the benefits for a little bit haha Do I keep waiting on him to ask me or keep giving him hints, or can I straight up tell him when I’m horny and really want to see him? I am recently divorced and have never had a FWB before. Also do FWB do sexting often and flirting? I haven’t been doing that with him much lately ..read more

Just enjoy! That will create the best outcome ..read more

I’m going on my first date tomorrow. I think I might also get my first kiss. How do I kiss? How do I know if I’m a good kisser ..read more

Eek so sorry, brain fart typo, Khadija not mama ..read more

I agree with mama and with Raven. I’m assuming your distance may be related to where both your kids live, but are there aspects to your relationship with him that make you insecure that DO NOT involve other people? Like, are you feeling good about being 60 miles apart and not married after 6 years together? If the situation works for you and makes you satisfied and happy, then great, nothing wrong with that! But if not and you’re struggling with any aspects of the logistics and progression of your relationship, it may be easy to fixate on this ex than deal with the harder issues of him taking ..read more

You’ve been together for 6 years & you’re still an hour away… Why ..read more

Honestly, Jessie, if he was never married to her and has since had a chance to be with her and didn’t take it, he’s not interested in her romantically and she’s annoying for sure but no real threat to your relationship. If he’s otherwise a good BF and potential husband material, don’t let her spoil the good thing you have going ..read more

Thank you. He was never married to her, they only dated briefly I’m guess close to 20 years ago. Since then, my boyfriend has married and had children, divorced from that ex-wife now for about 10 years. As far as the ex girlfriend in question, she has also married with elementary aged children and still with her husband. During the times I’ve seen her, she has been with her husband and kids ..read more