my ex from high school (i’m in my 3rd year of college now) just lost someone very close to him, and even though we haven’t talked in a long time it’s made me realize how much i still care about him and want to be in his life again. i texted him after i heard the news, attended the funeral and sent flowers. it’s been a couple days and i’m worried about him, and i don’t know how long i should wait to reach out. and i have no idea what to say. because we haven’t talked in a while i don’t know what he needs to hear and/or how he’s processing all this. i’m scared of saying the wrong thing or annoy ..read more

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i’m not sure why i’ve come to reddit with something like this but here i am. my grandfather died this weekend after having a massive heart attack the night before. my family and i were all in the hospital room with him while he passed away, he had a slight death rattle near the end and soft moaning sounds like snoring. he was sleeping peacefully and didn’t feel a thing but i can’t get over the fact that he is dead. i feel numb but i also start crying out of the blue.. im just in total shock and dont know how to cope with it. i’m struggling to sleep at night. my grandad was 80 years old and ha ..read more

My grandma has been in hospice since October 2023. My family are assuming the worst but I'm doing everything I can to stay strong for my grandfather, mom, and uncle. I try to maintain positive thoughts and refuse to allow any negativity thoughts to overpower me. When my grandma does pass, it's gonna hit all of us hard but I think it'll hit my grandfather the hardest because him and my grandma have been married for almost 70 years. Sometimes my grandma has her eyes open and is still alert and other times, she's very tired and sleeps. It's like I'm carrying an anvil on each of my shoulders beca ..read more

Trigger warning - discussion of brain hemorrhage and a parent's final days in hospital My Dad died on Monday after spending a week in hospital. He had collapsed in the garden and my mum was with him at the time. Mum said that they had a argument before he collapsed. My mum was obstructive to medical staff (out of shock, maybe?) stating she had given him CPR (she hadn't) and said that his current presentation (grunting, with right sided weakness with left sided tremors from Parkinson's) was normal. When I arrived, I had to explain to staff that none of this was normal and that my dad was mobil ..read more

Hello, I wrote a medium post related to grief, loss, and pain, I would appreciate any thoughts about it: https://medium.com/@sjch10/opening-up-e1f8522cc28c Thanks! submitted by /u/Peaceful-Warrior97 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Its so hard to process this. I'm only 19... only found out a few hours ago. A lot of crying and disbelief since then. Its so hard to not feel like this was my fault because in our last conversation I got angry with him. Usually that would resolve within the next day but he committed... and I feel like i was his final straw. he wanted to see me and asked to hang out over the phone and since I was upset with him I said i wasn't sure and that was the last time we spoke. I know im in shock right now and it doesnt feel real and it will hit me like a ton of bricks soon but im just ruminating on how ..read more

Hi friends, my best friend recently passed away tragically and suddenly, and I've put my feelings down in words. Some friends have reached out to say the words helped them, so I hope it's okay to share them here... Some of the things I've learned: There's this weird panic of grieving the right way. It’s okay to not cry all the time, to laugh, to do fun things. You don’t need to show your sadness all the time, or you will rot. For the first time in my very loud life, I have found comfort in silence. I feel most grateful for the times that my friends would just sit with me as I stared into spa ..read more

Has anyone else experienced this?? I lost my husband of 24 yrs a little over a yr ago. We separated with a no contact order about 4 months B4 I found out about his suicide. I was in another state with family when I decided to Google his name on our anniversary only to find his obituary. My husband was and is the love of my life and I just assumed we would be back together. I never received a phone call, ashes or any of our belongings. So... This is where my mind decided to go.... My mind has lead me to believe he is still alive and we are still under a no contact order. Truly. I have been liv ..read more

I am visiting a close family member who lost their child recently in similar circumstances to the writer of this book. If you have lost a child how would you feel if you received this book from a loved one? I seen it recently and knew about Robs story before as he talks quite openly about it. Is it a bad 'gift' or how long would you wait to give something like this? We are quite close and they know we love and care about them so I don't think they will take it badly but I just don't know if it's right or right for right now? Would love some thoughts from parents who have lost a child? submi ..read more