People are horrible … you find that out on this journey we are on not everybody thank god but a lot are xx ..read more

Have you tried word searches or mindfulness colouring that can take your mind off things ..read more

Hello flowergarden I’m sorry you too are having a terrible day I too are at home alone and absolutely hate it and I’m trying so hard to get myself motivated my Bereavement councillor told me I’d never get over the loss of my husband but eventually would learn to manage it like you I hope that day comes soon for us thank you for your reply and take care ..read more

I am so glad you have started Jigsaws. I had never done them before but a friend persuaded me to give them a try. I hate being on my own and find lonliness is unbearable so I am doing my jigsaws most of my time - when I cannot sleep I will get up early and do them ..read more

I am so sorry that you are having a terrible day. I am also having a terrible day and cannot stop crying. When I am home alone I find the lonliness unbearable. I have no family and just two friends who understand how I feel. They keep in touch but the house feels so empty without my partner who died of a stroke suddenly nearly 9 months ago. It helps to know that others have felt the same and this is normal. I am told that you never get over a bereavement but over time learn to manage it - I hope that comes soon for both of us ..read more

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Hi GEOFF211 So sorry for your loss I do know what your going through I’m having a really bad weekend too although I’m trying to keep myself busy I just keep crying, it will be a year to the date Wednesday May1st I lost my husband but he actually he passed on the Monday which is tomorrow when he was rushed into hospital and passed hours later. Today Sunday is the day he told me he didn’t feel well at all and told me he wanted to get something really special for my birthday which is in a couple of weeks for all that I’d done for him and looked after him now I just try each day to get by and wait ..read more

I’m so very sorry. It’s good that you have your son, so you aren’t completely alone. I know the guilt is crushing, I’ve been there. Yes, time will ease it a little, but please find a counsellor to talk to who listens and lets you speak about it at length. You get stuck in the thought loops on your own and that only makes it worse. To break those loops you can also try to write to your mum, a letter or in a journal, just to get it out of your head and onto the paper ..read more

@Steven I am truly sorry for your loss When we are young we do things or behave badly towards our parents, it’s all part of growing up and becoming an adult. Your mum would have more than likely behaved this was towards her parents. Your mum loves you and wouldn’t want you to be upset. Your mum understands and loves your unconditionally. Maybe write your mum a letter, saying what you are sorry , for whatever it is you have done. This way you have gotten it all out and so it’s not swirling around your head. We all make mistakes and hurt those we love as we are growing up. Be strong and brave ..read more

@LynT I just hope I can see things from your perspective. soon your doing so well ..read more