This is quite long. I just have to get it if me otherwise I'd keep it bottled up and that won't end well. My wife died. This is the first time I truly acknowledged it. I never pretended that she left me or that I left her. I never pretended that she is just somewhere far away. But somehow, for the past 12 years, I never connected the words “died” or “dead” with her. In my mind and when I refer to her, it is “lost my wife.” Typing those words hurt like hell. It brings a heavy finality. She is not just gone or lost but dead. She’s not coming back. And like the wedding vows we made—till death do ..read more

We met in college. The place we were eating at was quite crowded. There were no empty tables, so I asked if I could share with her. She said yes. It was, as they say, the rest is history. We got talking and found out we went to the same university. She had beautiful green eyes. They were warm and kind, but could turn into Greek fire if provoked. Her eyes were the ones that first drew me to her. I could get lost in them. She used to catch me staring at her for long periods and laughingly close my mouth because “it’s rude to stare, you know.”  When she would stare at me, I felt like sh ..read more

And thank you for all that you do!  You've still got it!  Bless you ..read more

I never thought when I first met Kevin when I was 18 that at 48 years old old I would be saying three years without him, it still sometimes doesn’t feel real I see his smile hear his voice , look at our seven kids and 8 grandkids and see him in them, when he first passed away received signs all the time from him butterflies where they shouldn’t be him showing me that he was still there, three years later the signs are few and far between I think it’s because he knows I will be ok I still cry and miss him and my heart still feels empty sometimes but it doesn’t consume me anymore can say that st ..read more

Feb 2024 Eletter from Wings--A Grief Education Ministry Wings would like to hear your story and share it. Please send a brief paragraph. Due to the holidays, I have a short deadline. Submit your story before Jan. 12, 2024. Include your name, City/State. I will only print your first name. What do you think….Love That Brought You Together In February our hearts all turn to “love”. For those who are grieving, precious moments or thoughts will surface and become the anchor that helps us through Valentines’ Day. A time of remembering something very special that brought the two of you together. Wi ..read more

From Stuart M. Doering, Graduate Student at Viterbo University's Master of Science in Mental Health Counseling Program: This survey is focused on the relationship between resilience and grief among men who have lost a loved one within the last 30 years, are at least 18 years old, and use he/him/his pronouns. The survey will take about 15-25 minutes and will involve answering questions about your personal experiences with grief and current functioning. Participation is entirely voluntary. You can stop taking the survey at any point. After taking the survey you can click a link to a separate sur ..read more

I lost my partner on June 18th. I  cry uncontrollably can't catch my breath. I wonder what I did wrong in life or what we did wrong to have her taken away from me. How does someone go into the hospital to get treated for cancer and dies from the treatment instead of the cancer. It hurts so much I want to be with her. How do keep living when everything I do, and see reminds me my JoAnn. I sleep on the couch cause I cannot not go into any of the  bedrooms I don't want to live without her. I was with her 24/7 in the hospital making sure they gave the appropriate medication, bed was clea ..read more

Hi all, I am here because my grief runs deep and I don't know if survival is a possibility. Looking for advice on how to maneuver in this time and I want to know if there's hope for me.  I lost my wife recently to an accident. We were married for 16 years. The one and only love of my life. I am 48 years old.  I have two young kids a 14 year and an 8 year old. My world is all shattered. It's been close to 4 months and my heart has been churning nonstop. I made it thru these months hoping that I will start to feel bit better. But it hasn't happened yet. It feels like there is a Knife g ..read more

I need to write down the following: I'm tired of being strong, of wearing a "brave face". I wish I could cry my heart out, but after 9 months of grief it seems I'm blocked with my emotions. Grief is so demanding and confusing... thanks for reading ..read more

When my spouse passed from covid it was the most horror of my life. I could not have imagined it in my worst nightmare ever. The government gave hospital full control. I could not be there to hold his hand nothing. I paced back and forth day and night praying for a miracle. I had to watch him die through a glass and afterwards all I felt was a fog of fire and I just wanted to die too. My life was that man and I don't want anything else and it was stolen from me. Since his death I have learned that all anyone cares about as far as I am concerned is stuff and money. I don't even say I'm a widow ..read more