Everything has a good side right, but what’s the good side to anger? Today, we learn how to express anger in healthy ways to become better at using it rather than bottling it up, or hurting those around us. You will learn: The purpose of anger as an emotion and it’s biological & societal roots. Effective strategies for men to manage their anger in the moment and beyond? Guidance on how couples can rebuild trust after conflict. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click Here Guest Info Find Jared Kiddoe: Authentic Marriages Jared Kiddoe:  Instagram The Anger Control Work ..read more

We are experiencing unprecedented times because although we are more connected than we have ever been we are also more alone than we have ever been. I believe what most people are seeking is intimacy they are looking to be seen. In this episode, we discuss Intimacy (Into-Me-See) in marriage and its importance as a foundational piece in our relationships. We are also joined by a special guest my hubby Junior Smith. Podcast Mentions Ester Perel: Ester Perel Info God Attachment: Amazon Link to Book Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.c ..read more

Fantasies can be fun and exciting but they can be damaging to a relationship. In this episode, I discuss fantasies and fallacies men and women may hold before coming into relationships. Join us every Thursday for more topics on love and marriage. If you have any questions you would like to be discussed on the show feel free to send a dm to @blackmarriagetherapy or email info@blackmarriagetherapy.us Don’t forget to leave a rating and review of the show.  Thank you! Podcast Socials: Instagram,Twitter, Facebook: @blackmarriagetherapy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/p ..read more

What happens to us in the past never really stays in the past. When there is unaddressed and unhealed trauma lingering from our past we drag those experiences with us into the future and into our relationships. So how can we resolve the trauma in our past in order to promote a healthy long-lasting relationship? In this episode, I discuss trauma and its impact on your current relationship and how awareness, empathy, healing, and education can help you overcome your past. Podcast Mentions What Happened to You?: Amazon Link Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ BetterHelp ..read more

In this episode, we dive into pleasure, sexual empowerment, and confidence with the incredible Goody Howard MPH, MSW. Goody is a world-renowned sexologist, educator, and consultant who has dedicated her life to empowering others through sexual exploration, education, and awareness. From hosting sexual skill workshops to creating sex-positive professional development opportunities, Goody layers her focus on pleasure with her engaging and energetic presentation style. Today, we’ll be discussing the journey to sexual liberation, how confidence in the bedroom translates to other areas of life, and ..read more

There are moments in our relationships where communication breaks down, and things can start to feel overwhelming. In today's episode, we explore a concept from Dr. John Gottman’s research that can help explain why. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse represent four harmful communication patterns that, when left unchecked, can lead to the downfall of a marriage. Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling—these destructive behaviors don’t just harm the relationship; they destroy connection and intimacy. But there is hope! In this episode, we’ll not only discuss these patterns but also ..read more

Today, we’re diving into the critical role of understanding personal values in marriage. Understanding your values isn't just about recognizing what's important to you—it’s fundamentally about how these values shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your relationship. In this episode, we will explore: What Values Are: Gain a clear understanding of what values are and how they shape your beliefs, decisions, and behaviors within your marriage. The Consequences of Not Understanding Your Values: Discover what can go wrong when you don't understand your values and how this can lead ..read more

A few months ago I was on a high I felt like I was working on everything that I wanted to accomplish and out of nowhere I just stopped. I made excuses and told myself it was because I'm tired, or I needed a break or work-life balance. 4 weeks went by and I was getting worse and worse and moving further and further from my goals. I accepted my behaviors as proof that I am all the negative things I say about myself. I'm an imposter, lazy, inconsistent, and indecisive person. I stumbled upon a video talking about self-sabotage that I ignored but over the next couple of weeks that word kept coming ..read more

In this episode, I address what I. believe is the result of long term porn use in relationships.  While some argue it can enhance sexual experiences, others say it breeds discontent, and an inability to connect intimately with one's partner.  I will be drawing insights from my personal experiences and those of members in my recovery group who claim shattered marriages, career losses and even deeper dives into other forms of addiction. Podcast Mentions Support this Podcast: Click HereSampson SocietyCovenant EyesUnwanted by Jay Stringer Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy f ..read more

In this episode, we’re exploring the vital role of emotional intelligence (EI) in marriage. Emotional intelligence isn't just about managing other people's feelings or being overly aware of their emotions—it's fundamentally about understanding and managing your own emotions effectively. We’ll look into how EI starts with you, its importance in improving communication and conflict resolution, and how to develop and apply it in your relationship. In this episode, you will gain: A Clear Understanding of Emotional Intelligence: Learn what EI is, how it impacts your ability to manage your own emo ..read more