Deja vu part two
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by Jem
1w ago
In my previous post, in which I announced the separation from my husband and likely impending doom of trying to buy him out of the mortgage, I joked that I might have to do Project £20k again. I probably shouldn’t have tempted fate, because as it turns out that this is the number that Gaz has floated in terms of equity buyout, and my rapid expansion and therefore short term lower net profit… Source ..read more
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Deja vu, here we go again, etc
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by Jem
1w ago
Long term readers (are there any other type now? pretty sure I don’t get any new ones these days ) may recall that in 2014 after splitting from my ex – the children’s father – I launched “project £20k” to raise funds to buy my ex out of our joint mortgage. Well, as it turns out, I might need to do that again. Fun times! It’s official: Gaz and I are separating. There’s been some… Source ..read more
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A dirty secret
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by Jem
1w ago
About this time last year I blogged about the chaos that was life at the time (nothing has changed, for the record) and one of the things I mentioned in passing was that I had For the astute amongst you, you may have noticed that some of my social media bios mention “poly” and put two and two together. In short, Gaz and I ‘officially’ opened up our relationship early last year and we… Source ..read more
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Aeroplanes, autism, and Fern Brady
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by Jem
3M ago
It’s 14:17 GMT. I’m sat in the front row of an aeroplane, once again en route to Athens in business class. Albeit a cheeky last minute upgrade bid this time rather than a full priced ticket. I’m traveling alone, off to support my partner as he runs his first marathon in the Greek capital. He has no idea I’m coming; he thinks I’m at Alton Towers running a 10k with my husband. I feel less alien in... Source ..read more
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The highs and lows of my first ‘proper’ hire
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by Jem
3M ago
I made my first “proper” hire at Ultimately Better last month. Well, proper in the sense that I wasn’t just offering a salaried position to a long-standing freelancer; proper in the sense that I had to write a job spec, advertise, interview and make Big Important Decisions. I find the whole process of hiring someone to be quite scary to be honest. That feeling of being responsible for someone’s... Source ..read more
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40TBIF: I completed number 5!
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by Jem
7M ago
After posting in April about me undertaking a new “40 things before I’m forty” challenge, I’ve finally got started on the list, ticking off number 5 – Compete in a powerlifting competition – at the weekend. After multiple setbacks over the past 4-5 years I was finally able to take part in a ‘Quiet Focus’ competition run by North Midlands powerlifting. You can read more about it... Source ..read more
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Keeping it in the family
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by Jem
8M ago
My brother should have been 42 today, and I’m finding his birthday and the upcoming anniversary of his death to be particularly hard this year. Since my autism diagnosis, and the advice to seek an ADHD assessment, I’ve been somewhat obsessively looking at family on both sides to see where “it” came from. I have several family members with a diagnosis or diagnosis in progress, so getting my “yes it’... Source ..read more
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Find my (blogging) roots
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by Jem
8M ago
I’ve been feeling restless about my blog for a good long while. Wanting to update, not quite wanting to commit the words I want to say to the vastness that is the internet. However, a resurgence in indie websites and personal blogging has given me a bit of motivation, so I’m hoping this is the kick up the butt I need to get moving again. To “celebrate” this I’ve gone old school with my theme... Source ..read more
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Because I’m only getting older
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by Jem
11M ago
Long term readers might recall that in the years before my 30th birthday, I set myself a list of “30 things to do before I’m thirty“; challenges and personal milestones I wanted to hit before I reached 30 years old. Within months of turning 30, I started writing a similar set of goals and monster milestones to tackle before I hit forty… and then promptly forgot about it for 6 years. Source ..read more
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A change is as good as a rest
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by Jem
1y ago
I have successfully rendered myself a liar this week. After calling myself “basically unemployable” back in 2018, I started a new part-time position with Source Design this week. Super stressed Jem who couldn’t possibly contemplate a 9-5 way back in 2018 is now super chilled out handling a senior dev position for one firm, managing director for another, and freelancing between the two. Source ..read more
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