In this episode, Sukh shares some thinking on how we're getting praise and appreciation wrong. We are conditioned to think that we don't deserve to hear praise and appreciation regularly, and it's only meant to be given infrequently. There's a lot of misconception about praise and appreciation, as well as little development in how to give praise and appreciation in good regular ways.   You can connect with Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial ..read more

In this episode, Sukh explores his thinking and writing on positive thinking, and what he's called the positive continuum. One end of the continuum is what he calls "Helpful Reframing", the middle is where we have "Toxic Positivity", and at the other end "Relentless Positivity". He mentions work from the following sources: https://positivepsychology.com/toxic-positivity-in-psychology/ https://www.managers.org.uk/knowledge-and-insights/article/toxic-positivity-its-on-the-rise-and-its-dangerous/ https://www.hrmagazine.co.uk/content/news/susan-david-beware-toxic-positivity You can connect with Su ..read more

In this episode, Sukh talks about research on resilience and what we can learn from the different papers. Resilience under conditions of extreme stress: a multilevel perspective - Dante Cicchetti https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2948722/ The Impact of Hope and Resilience on Multiple Factors in Neurosurgical Patients: Devika Duggal, Amanda Sacks-Zimmerman and Taylor Liberta https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5120968/ Positive mental health and its relationship with resilience - Kalpana Srivastava https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3530291/ You can connect with Su ..read more

After a 3 month hiatus, Sukh returns to 3 Good Podcast to talk about happiness. He talks about how we are asking the wrong questions when it comes to being happy. There are a range of things which influence if we feel happy or not: how we express our emotions, the language we use for appreciation, what kind of meaningful things we're doing, the impact of money, and the quality of our relationships we have. You can follow Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial ..read more

In this short episode, Sukh discusses how we're allowed to give ourselves permission to plan for good things that are healthy and fulfilling for us. We might normally call this self-care, and it's a good antidote for all the regular hard stuff we hear in the news, and through social media. You can connect with Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial ..read more

In this episode, Sukh talks about apologies, shame and guilt. He explores how we have many missed opportunities to be empathetic, and as a result we can't share our vulnerabilities with others. He discusses the impact of social media on our ability to be empathetic, and instead we have to be right. As a result of being right, when something is sharing something we often have to balance a sense of being right vs valuing the other person for who they are and what they're saying. He ends by discussing how apologising should be about expressing shame and guilt, but shouldn't be laden with self-loa ..read more

In this episode, Sukh starts by addressing some myths about positive psychology: - That if you cultivate positivity it means dismissing or not feeling negative emotions - That if you are facing a physical health or mental health condition and aren't thinking positively, then you're causing your own problems - That if you're feeling a 'negative' emotion, you can control it He also talks about how to build positivity by paying attention to certain types of activity, and making them a more regular part of our daily habits. You can connect with Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial ..read more

In this episode, Sukh reflects on shares his experience of completing a Coursera MOOC on Resilience. It was with Dr Karen Reivich from the University of Pennsylvania. Key things that are talked about in this episode are: definition of resilience variables of resilience thinking traps real time resilience building positive emotion strengthening relationships You can complete the strengths survey here "VIA Survey of Character Strengths" https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/testcenter You can connect with Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial ..read more

In this episode, Sukh reviews the best-selling book Sapiens by author and historian Yuval Noah Harari. The book is a dispassionate and relentless look at human history through the lens of three significant events for the development of Homo Sapiens as a species - 1. The Cognitive Revolution 2. The Agricultural Revolution and 3. The Scientific Revolution. It's not an easy book to consume, because it is challenging to what we think we know of human history, and forces you to examine your own insights. You can buy the book from Amazon here. You can connect with Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial ..read more

In episode 34, Sukh discusses the everyday boring, routine stuff we should be doing, but don't, that would lead to a better life. He put out a tweet on Twitter asking the question: "What are the boring/routine things that people should do, but don't, that would enable a good life to be had?" He's incorporated many of the responses and reads them out as part of the episode. You can read the thread here https://twitter.com/sukhpabial/status/1233838493484363777 You can connect with Sukh on Twitter @sukhpabial. The book reference was Why We Sleep, by Matthew Walker ..read more