Sometimes life get's hard and shit get's real.  Welcome to a raw and unfiltered episode where we dive deep into the complexities of navigating life when everything feels overwhelming. In this episode, we explore what to do when challenges pile up, responsibilities seem endless, and emotions run high. Join us as we uncover the strategies to handle life's real struggles with grace and resilience. If you are ready to talk about this, let's get on a free Strategy Session!  You can book that here: amandahess.ca ..read more

It can be really disheartening when the things you do to help yourself when emotions get high suddenly seem to stop working.  It can be tempting to believe in these moments that something is wrong, that there is specifically something wrong with YOU.  But that's not the truth.  The truth is that nervous system regulation is not a set it and forget it game.  We are humans and not robots, we need to really look at how to approach ourselves by looking at where we are at right now.  Familiar routines sometimes are the worst ways to regulate yourself, and that's why I recor ..read more

In a world that often touts quick fixes and instant solutions, the concept of an "easy button" can be alluring. We are constantly bombarded with messages that promise a simple answer to life's complexities, whether it's through a new course, a magic program, or a revolutionary coaching technique. But what if the key to real growth and transformation lies not in pressing an easy button, but in embracing the journey of self-discovery and personal development? The latest episode of the podcast delves deep into this very notion, challenging the prevalent narrative that there is a one-size-fits-all ..read more

I guarantee you could ask 5 people in a row how they are doing, and all 5 of them would tell you that they are busy.  Being busy has become a familiar refrain among the modern world, and the truth is, it needs to stop.  If you are feeling anxious and depleted and like you are on your last nerve, busyness addiction is playing a much bigger part in this problem than what you might realize.   Too many women are jumping from task to task with a to-do list that is a mile long and and a mile wide.  You might think that the way through this is to get it all done, and I am here to ..read more

Resentment cancer.  Here's what you know, resentment is always cancer.  Always.  It hardens you from the hurt, it protects you from the pain, but the long game when it comes to resentment is one of loneliness, bitterness and despair.   Resentment protects us, but it also blocks us.  It keeps us from the things that we desperately want in the world because we decide that the world sucks, we decide people (or maybe just a gender) sucks and we decide that hope isn't worth it.   It takes courage to open back up to the world.  It takes strength to open ourselves u ..read more

Difficult relationships are just that ... difficult.  The truth is, we all have difficult relationships.  Even when we decide to stop contact with somebody, we still have a relationship with them, because the truth is, all a relationship is, is your thoughts about another person.  I know it can seem like the only way to improve a relationship with somebody is for them to change, but I am here to tell you that is not necessarily the case.  We have a lot more power than we think we do when it comes to relationships.  Take a listen if you want to change a difficult relati ..read more

My son was told by a friend that somebody on his basketball team found him annoying.  My response was that, first of all, that was his teammates problem.  Because the truth is, being annoyed is a feeling and that means it's created by what we think.  We can't control what somebody else thinks, and therefore we cannot control how somebody else feels. Feedback like "you are annoying" can be tough to navigate as a neurodivergent woman.  We have heard before and we have heard it a lot, but that doesn't make it true.  We need to change the way we think about being "annoying ..read more

I spent a lot of years of my life (over 40) being ashamed of being an outward verbal processor.  It's a pretty common neurodivergent trait that can oftentimes end up with other people treating you poorly.  Here's the thing, even thought a lot of people really don't get it, there ARE a lot of people that DO get it.  Today's episode breaks down what life looks like as a verbal processor, how to get of the shame spiral, and how to help yourself process better so that this doesn't happen for you as much. More than anything, what you need to know is that there are lots of people in t ..read more

If you tell me that you are neurodivergent, I would bet money that you have a lot of lists.  You probably think that those lists are what is keeping you from drowning in forgetting all the things you are supposed to be doing.  But I am going to tell you something that might rock your world: The lists are making things so much worse.  Lists are a way of confirming all of the things you "have to" do in the world.  But have you ever stopped to think about what you might WANT to do?  Probably not, because you are being buried alive by what you "have to" do.   Today's ..read more

Anxiety.  We all feel it.  It has been labelled as a problem emotion.  It has been labeled as a disordered emotion.  But what if I told you that it's actually an emotion we feel when we are terrified of feeling emotion?  Today I am going to share what anxiety REALLY is.  I am also going to help you break it down into bite size pieces so that you can finally start addressing anxiety in an empowered way.  We don't need to get rid of anxiety, but we do need to learn how to handle it.  This episode is going to show you how to do that. If you are ready to be ..read more