Can we be too attached to our money? On this week's episode of the podcast, Jordan Pendleton joins me as guest host where she interviews me on how our attachment styles show up to influence our relationship with money.   I truly enjoyed this conversation with her on her podcast ⁠REAL Money Talk⁠ as she asked great questions about my journey from scarcity to abundance in life, money and relationships. Please take a moment to leave us a review of the podcast on your favorite platform as it really helps us spread the message shared on the podcast about modern dating, texting, social med ..read more

On this week's episode, I lay out ten things to look out for on a first date that can tell you that your date has an avoidant attachment style.  In tune last week's episode, I'd like to encourage everyone to be mindful in how they approach making assumptions about their date and instead of writing them off as red flags, get curious about what you see and label the behavior. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the community, and encourage others to discover the self-awareness they’r ..read more

On this week's episode of the podcast, I am joined by Samantha Graham, cohost of Where's Our Participation Trophy podcast, to talk about modern dating from the lens of attachment theory.   The title of this podcast comes from viral videos and memes on the internet which can feel confusing for daters in the modern world being told that the right person would be able to read your mind and just give you everything you need, without being asked.  Sam and I dig into what is behind this overused phrase that perpetuates the toxic "throw away" culture of modern dating. If her message re ..read more

On this week's episode, I walk you through 10 signs that your date or partner may have an anxious attachment style.  Attachment theory research has been evolving since the last 60s and I discovered its impact in my life about five years ago. After a couple of bad breakups in 2017, I decided to make a change and took ownership of my role in the ending of those relationships.  I sought out a counselor and began to interview experts in relationship theory and practice on this podcast.  Tune in today to learn how to spot an anxiously attached date while learning tools to grow throug ..read more

On this week's episode of the podcast, Talia Bombola joins me for a follow up conversation to share with you why you may be attracted to and attracting emotionally unavailable people.  Previously on the podcast, Talia and I dug in to attachment styles, masculine and feminine energy dynamics and so much more.  This time around, I asked three questions that are most common in our community of authentic daters. Why do you attract emotionally unavailable people? Why do I push people away when dating? How do I date (earn security) as an anxious/avoidant attachment style?  If Talia's ..read more

This week, we have a quick hitting, solo episode where I dig into this popular quesiton from one of our audience members from a recent Tiktok Live. Should a woman ask out a man on a date?  Listen in on this six minute episode and reach out with any questions you may have about flirting with the masculine in a playful to let him know you're interested. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the community, and encourage others to discover the self-awareness they’re looking for to show u ..read more

On this week's episode of the podcast, we continue on with our series on first dates with a real life dater Becky Bradley.  I am so impressed with her bravery to come speak with me on the podcast about dating after divorce with an anxious attachment style. We dig into Becky's life story beginning with a medical condition as a child that left her feeling alone in school and isolated from her friends.  Fast forward to her life now with children and a challenging marriage, she describes her first few relationships afterward with openness and tremendous self-awareness. If her message res ..read more

How do you define the relationship?  This week's episode is a live conversation originally recorded on Tiktok with our community contributing questions as we dig into the definition of a relationship agreement vs defining the relationship with terms such as boyfriend and girlfriend. The conversation turned to attachment theory and the differnces of how defining the relationship impacts the nervous systems of the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Did you enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave me a review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, e ..read more

On this week's episode, Traver joins me to educate us on how the Nice Guy shows up for men in relationships. Traver Boehm @traverboehm is a former MMA fighter, a Challenger on the Enneagram like me, and the author of Man Uncivilized.  it is a ground breaking work of poetry, thoughts, and an honest portrayal of the challenges men face in the world today. I’ve seen the Nice Guy show up in my past and have experienced a lot of growth in the past few years when facing those tendencies and integrating that part back into my psyche.     what does it mean to be a man? why do men numb o ..read more

Recored live on Tiktok, I am joined this week by real life dater, Britt Leilani from Boise, Idaho.  Britt and I discuss a growing phenomenon in modern dating; Facebook groups connecting people over whether or not they are dating the same person. Are you a member of one of these groups in your area?  Britt is a member of two groups as she travels 6 months out of the year between D.C. and Boise where her three children live.  We discuss mental health and dating with bipolar personality disorder and attachment styles.  If her message resonates with you, please connect with her ..read more