Sometimes we lose track of how we impact those around us. Recognizing our power to effect change can be very uplifting. David says,  “Thinking you can fix the world is totally naive. But it's not naive to think you can change it. We change it all the time, whether we like it or not.” Then it’s up to us to know when and how to engage with others who hold vastly different viewpoints. In this episode we talk about  Why so much patience is required when “returning” from abroad; How to know when others have the bandwidth to hear what we have to say; What a peaceful society really is; an ..read more

Do you like the idea of built-in community and connection combined with plenty of privacy? Do you wish your children had freedom to play outside and with neighborhood friends at any time? Do you want to retire in a country with low cost of living, gorgeous weather and deliciously fresh, healthy food? Then it's worth your time to learn more about Greek Village Cohousing. “It's really for anyone who is drawn to community. That's what it comes down to. If you have a desire to be in greater connection with other people and connection with the land, then cohousing is for you.” Learn What cohousing ..read more

As TCKs (and adults) work through the complex issues of identity, place and belonging, it can be really hard to express what’s going on inside. We may need an expanded vocabulary. We may need permission to be outside of prescribed standards. “When we use creativity and tell our stories in creative ways, it opens up a different way of processing. It helps us to get past the expectations we have for ourselves.” In this episode we talk about How telling their own stories helps TCKs connect with others; Why practicing telling their own stories is important even for families who are great communic ..read more

Saying goodbye is unfortunately a staple of expat life. For me it’s the worst part of living abroad. I was recently asked, “Do you have any tips for a teen who resists saying goodbye?” Here’s my expanded answer. The tips I share here are relevant for adults as well as children, whether you’re the one leaving or staying. I talk about Being in denial; The normal process of disengaging; Honoring different styles; Prompts to help those who aren’t sure how or what to say;  and more. RESOURCES mentioned in the episode:  Check out the gift ideas for expats I’ve put together for you. Heali ..read more

Theatre gives kids a chance to relax and express themselves -- and explore new ways of being -- outside the boundaries of classroom rules or societal expectations.  “When they're in a very safe environment, like a theater class, they feel very relaxed because it's not like the general classroom environment. They also don't know what to expect, so it is a bit of a surprise. It's a safe place. It's a social place.” Theatre helps develop language and communication skills, resilience in stressful situations, and acceptance of people from different backgrounds. We also talk about Being playfu ..read more

Christine’s story of unresolved grief started in her teen years, but she didn’t start unpacking it until over 25 years later. Her story has come full circle, as she now helps women in transition tell their stories. She shares the power of knowing and telling her own story, and how stories help us connect with people. “I had really boxed it up and put it away and not looked at it for many, many, many years. Until I started to realize what an impact it had on me, and my ability to just be myself with people, and to talk to people and let them see me -- and allow me to see them.” We also talk abo ..read more

When we feel disoriented, such as when living in another culture, hearing stories from real people who’ve been through similar experiences has a stabilizing effect. Creating space for people to tell their stories is a powerful way we can give them agency.  “Lending an ear is one of the most powerful gifts we can give to another person. And what we're giving to them is … power. So often it's another person who’s defining us. But when we can choose the words and share with the world who we are, what we've been through, at our own pace and in our own tone, we reclaim a sense of agency and po ..read more

Most of us could use a little help in telling our life stories, especially as our lives get further outside standard categories. This episode kicks off a series on storytelling, with a hands-on, easy activity I’ve developed, inspired by the artform of mosaics. It’s a way to look at all the good and bad, all the ugly and beautiful, a way to take all your “broken” pieces and mis-matched bits, and fit them together in a meaningful design. RESOURCES mentioned in the episode:  Mosaics activity  expats.together. weekly live chat for connection and social support Be a VIP + get email remind ..read more

This is a short message bringing you some updates, an invitation, and a story. All teen Third Culture Kids and their parents are invited to join a free conference. Socialize with other TCKs, learn from professional speakers, and have the chance to share your own experiences in this community building event. Also in this episode: what else I've been up to ways to connect a personal story that illustrates why I do this work. RESOURCES mentioned in the episode:  TCKCon, a free conference for teen Third Culture Kids and their parents, via Zoom on April 24 from 10:30am-12:30pm EDT - https ..read more

Did you know? Your job satisfaction (or dissatisfaction) can reveal deep patterns that might be holding you back. Figuring that out is a little like realizing you keep ending up with the same bad boyfriend time after time. Renata tells us why working on your resume is the absolute last part of the puzzle when looking for a job, shifting direction or starting your own thing.  RESOURCES mentioned in the episode:  “Live Abroad With No Regrets” 5 day challenge - Join Renata February 8-12, 2021 adapt.succeed.together. 12-week group program starts March 1 - with a special bonus for those w ..read more