Since your reactive patterns have been kept in place out of protection, it’s only natural that objections show up when you start to take them apart. If you know what they are, you can seize the opportunity to meet with them and finally get further in healing than you’ve gone before This episode walks you through three common obstacles - and how to navigate them. Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships” — Check out these related episodes: Ep109: The four pillars to shift patterns and heal woundsEp6: How things in the way of your process actua ..read more

Many of us long for nourishing connection with another human being, but end up feeling misunderstood, rejected, or reactive when we try. Our previous attempts have ended up in more conflict and pain, and we might have been called cold, crazy, or needy. This episode gives you the courage to be vulnerable, and to create true intimacy and connection. So that you can love and be loved, even if it didn’t feel safe or possible before. Get my free training “From struggling and reactive to peaceful and safe in relationships” Join Alchemy - my 5-week program that heals emotional wounds and shift rea ..read more

Most of us are being dragged around in the surface layers of the reactions in relationships. The anger, the withdrawal, the blame, the hyper-vigilance and the victimhood. By ourselves, our partner and most often - the dynamic between both. It’s not until we can get present and move through the surface layers of our reactions, that we’re able to express from a place that creates understanding AND heal the wound that shifts the pattern. In this special episode, I take you through one of my own recent reactions and break down the layers I found. So you can look for the layers and the root in yo ..read more

It’s easy to reject and judge your people-pleasing tendencies when you become aware of them - and see how they are causing you to override what you want and need. What we often miss with this pattern is that going along with other people is a protection mechanism. If you’re trying to override it you’ll probably signal danger to your internal system. Until you get to the layers underneath. In this episode, I talk to Karen who shares the process I guided her through a few weeks back. In just 15 minutes she’s able to feel all the layers of this pattern and get to the core wound - and say NO al ..read more

One of the most intense experiences is jealousy in your intimate relationship. When the other person turn their attention to someone else and you’re left feeling rejected, small and insecure. Whether you’ve experienced this pattern most of your life, or had it show up recently, this episode is for you. If you want to stop feeling hurt, lashing out with blame and feel like you’re ruining the relationship - listen to understand how you can heal this pattern at the core. This is part two in a series on how to use the issues, reactions and emotions showing up in your relationships to finally hea ..read more

It’s often in relation with others that our emotional wounds and protection mechanisms were created, which means it’s in our relationships they will show up - even when we think we’ve done all the work to shift them. This episode looks at three ways we show up in relationships that are widely normalized - but are actually what keep you stuck in old reactions and dynamics. This is part one in a series on how to use the issues, reactions and emotions showing up in your relationships to finally heal core wounds and be free from old conditioning. Get on my email list to receive future episodes ..read more

This episode walks you through 4 common expressions of an underdeveloped relationship with our emotional world and why they might be there. We also explore why some are more accepted than others, and the skills you need to mature the way you relate to emotions. Come join a free session on embodied feeling this Sunday, for women and non-binary. You find show notes in this post on my website ..read more

If you’re not doing your inner work from the belief that you’re broken and need fixing - why keep doing it? And what’s on the other side? This episode marks the end of 2023 and answers the questions: What happens with the parts of you that die? What are you becoming? Why set intentions? Come join a very special end-of-the-year soul journey on Friday Dec 29: Read more and joinYou find show notes in this post on my website ..read more

An ego death is a natural cycle of shedding old identities. But sometimes aspects of ourselves seem more stubborn and harder to let go of, even when we want to. In this episode we de-mystify the concept of ego death and look at how you can meet your shadow and loosen the grip of attachment, so you can finally let go of outdated iterations of yourself. If you want to take part of the yearly process of letting go inside Being Me, join the Death/Rebirth process we move through in December. It’s open to everyone. You find show notes in this post on my website ..read more

We can get so focused on the struggle in “doing the work” that we forget that there’s an experience on the other side of healing ourselves. If we’ve been addicted to struggle, then part of the journey is going to be to grow your tolerance of goodness and make safety, pleasure, and ease your new normal. In this fifth session with Wey, we’re spending time celebrating that she’s out of the swamp and digesting her shifts so far. Listen to discover how you can let go of your addiction to struggle, tension, and drama, and rewire for goodness. Come join Wey, myself, and the others in the Death/Rebi ..read more