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Toxic relationships & narcissism blog, featuring cognitive empathy, emotional manipulation, fear of rejection, anxiety, conflict, C-PTSD, and codependence. Authored by Rhoberta Shaler. Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making.
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1M ago
Whether you’re looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don’t want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it. Out of the gate, with someone new, it’s smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutual sharing, and ..read more
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1M ago
SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right? Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your expectations now. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: #Hijackals are emotionally ..read more
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1M ago
Narcissists ask for too much…and they expect to get it. It’s essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you’ve been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have stopped hearing their questions as outrageous; This episode will sharpen your listening skills and increase your sensitivity to questions ..read more
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2M ago
Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong…even when you’re right!. You never know what mood they’ll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent. They are intimidating! They keep you on edge! What can you do to reduce the intimidation? Listen to this episode. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Narcissistic ..read more
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2M ago
Narcissists love it when you run after their approval. You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away. In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a Hijackal – save your energy, save your time, save your self-esteem. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Hijackals ..read more
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3M ago
You want someone–at least one someone–to hear you, see you, believe you. So you share. Sadly, that often turns into oversharing, leaving you a little red-faced. if you fully embarrassed a little later, right? “Why did I do that?” There are good reasons you overshare. Don’t beat yourself up for it. Listen in to understand ..read more
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3M ago
Steps to emotional freedom require knowing where the path starts. These five “must-haves” are fundamental to saving your sanity, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Know the importance of each of these and how to keep them top of mind. Develop enough strength to follow the “healthier human” path to avoid being sucked down the “Hijackal human” one ..read more
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4M ago
Narcissistic Hijackals know what you want. Yet, they withhold giving it to you. They know what you need. Yet, they refuse to fulfill it. They know how to make you happy, but prefer disappointing you. Think deeply about these five “would be good” things narcissists promise but fail to deliver…and, they do it very deliberately ..read more
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5M ago
You want to be able to trust a person, right? It’s natural. It’s healthy. Yet, you cannot trust narcissists or any variation of Hijackal. And, I know you want to. In this episode, hear the many ways you CANNOT trust them, even when you want to. Hear ways you convince yourself you can believe them ..read more
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5M ago
Little by little, nasty, bitter, unfair things start becoming part of the day-to-day with a narcissist. Those Hijackals are relentless in wearing you down and getting their way, right? You might pass it off as another “little thing to avoid” to reduce the abuse. WHAT? You’re doing things to reduce the abuse rather than set ..read more