Sharing custody after a divorce is a challenging prospect, especially if you and your ex want different things. While you may hope to share custody, they may want to move back to California or even farther away because that is where their family lives. Whether they cite job opportunities, social connections or cost-of-living concerns, you likely feel strongly opposed to your ex leaving Hawaii with your children. Will a judge let your ex leave the state with your kids after your divorce? A judge focuses on what is best for the children Parents can sometimes reach unique arrangements for managin ..read more

As a military spouse, you may find it difficult to know exactly what to expect if you decide to divorce your partner. It may be tough to find time for the divorce, especially if your spouse is deployed, and there are other issues that you’ll need to contend with. Military spouses do have some specific rights and benefits that are different than in civilian cases. For example, you may be protected with the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act, which is a federal law offering protection to unmarried former spouses of members of the military. The Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protec ..read more

As a military spouse, you may find it difficult to know exactly what to expect if you decide to divorce your partner. It may be tough to find time for the divorce, especially if your spouse is deployed, and there are other issues that you’ll need to contend with. Military spouses do have some specific rights and benefits that are different than in civilian cases. For example, you may be protected with the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act, which is a federal law offering protection to unmarried former spouses of members of the military. The Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protec ..read more

If you want to get a divorce and your spouse is deployed, it can be a difficult task. For the most part, judges are not going to allow the divorce to move forward when the deployed military member is away. The Service Members Civil Relief Act may affect divorce proceedings if your spouse is deployed when you file for divorce. This act helps protect deployed service members from having to worry about, and handle, civil obligations to a divorce while they’re working and deployed. The reason for this act is to let service members to focus in their work without having to worry about missing court ..read more

The rules pertaining to child custody can be complicated for any couple. These rules are especially complex for military families, including those who are stationed in Hawaii. There are specific rules to be aware of and keep in mind during a military divorce to make the transition as smooth as possible. Establishing a custody agreement Creating a custody agreement in a military divorce is virtually the same for military couples as it is for civilian couples. The involved parties have to use the same factors to place children in an environment that will serve the children’s best interests. Addi ..read more

As a general rule, parents in Hawaii who have gotten a divorce are obligated to provide financial support to their children. In some cases, this comes in the form of a direct payment to the custodial parent from the noncustodial parent. However, even if you are a child’s custodial parent, there is no guarantee that you’ll receive any form of financial assistance. Let’s take a closer look at how support orders are structured and if you should expect to receive payments from your child’s other parent. When you should expect to receive child support payments Generally speaking, you’ll receive fin ..read more

Divorce is a difficult thing to accept for both parents and children experiencing a family breakup in Hawaii. It can also be tasking to deal with the emotional blow dealt when a parent finds out that their child would rather live with their ex-spouse. Both parents will need to put aside their emotions at some point to discuss the new child custody arrangement with each other and with the children. Parents should keep a few things in mind when initiating these discussions. It is first necessary to explain to the child that their thoughts and feelings are important even when the parent is in dis ..read more

Some parents in Hawaii may find themselves the target of parental alienation during or after a divorce. However, parental alienation generally begins before the divorce process. Anger and manipulation Parents are supposed to fulfill the emotional needs of their children, but in a parent-child relationship that eventually leads to parental alienation, these roles are reversed. Once the divorce is underway, the child as emotional caretaker of one parent is under a great deal of pressure to accede to that parent’s worldview. A parent who is angry about the divorce may begin to use the child to ge ..read more

Teenagers are notoriously difficult to communicate with. Their changing hormones can make them particularly prone to angry outbursts, but they may also be extremely reluctant to talk about their emotions. If you are currently going through a divorce and you have teenage children, you may be concerned about how to effectively communicate with them. On the surface, they may seem fine, but you may be worried about whether this tumultuous time is affecting them mentally. You may have spotted minor signs such as some uncharacteristically bad grades at school, or being more withdrawn, and may wonder ..read more

People measure divorce rates in many different ways. For instance, you may have heard that 50% of marriages end in divorce. It’s a commonly-cited statistic. However, that doesn’t mean half of all marriages end every year. It just means that half will end eventually — and even that statistic is debatable. A better way to look at it is to see what percentage of people get divorced during a given year. You can then compare changes over time. When doing this and considering military divorce rates, studies have found that female Marines have the highest rate. The different rates To start with, let ..read more