This episode talks about emotional flashbacks and we go over Pete Walkers 13 steps of what to do when you have an emotional flashback Emotional flashbacks are intense emotional states activated by past trauma (e.g., fear, shame, or feeling unsafe).  Emotional flashbacks may be hard to recognize. They can happen suddenly and it can be hard to pinpoint what caused them. Emotional flashbacks are not typically visual or auditory. This means they can be harder to detect, and you may not know that what you’re experiencing is an emotional flashback. You might blame yourself for these feelings or ..read more

This exercise is a great exercise if you are thinking about going on a healing journey or your already in one but are feeling stagnant or stuck plateaued. Its a very simple exercise that helps you look at what does the future hold if you DO change and heal and what will it take. It also looks at the flip side, what are the hard parts of change and healing and where will we self-sabotage our own efforts and stand in our own way even though we do WANT healing ..read more

This episode goes through 3 worksheets to help you know your own nervous system. The first is a personal profile map helping you understand how Fight, Flight, Freeze AND regulation shows up in your body, thoughts, feelings & behaviours The second is a Triggers and Glimmers worksheet that helps you know what triggers you OUT of your window of tolerance and glimmers that move you BACK into regulation. The third is a worksheet that helps you understand what can you do alone aka self-regulation and where do you need more support aka co-regulation These worksheets are so valuable to help you on ..read more

This weeks healing exercise: Write your life story from your Inner Child’s Perspective This exercise can be stand alone or piggy back off of last week’s episode of doing a Life Timeline. This is an exercise to begin to work with different ‘parts’ of ourselves. The part for this exercise is our Inner Child. This exercise can help us not only piece together what has happened in our life and what could be impacting us, but also the uncover the emotions behind it and see where some unprocessed stuff might be ..read more

A life time line is a tool to help us organize all the experiences we've had in our life and give us a starting point for what to work on in our healing. It can help us see why some experiences impacted us more because of other things we had going on or happening at that same time. It gives us a birds eye view of our life and can be a helpful tool to use in our therapy or coaching sessions ..read more

This was an exercise I learned from my counsellor in the depths of my own healing journey, she called it inner healing prayer. In this episode I go over two different ways to do this. The first is to use the exercise to invite Jesus into past trauma's and wounded areas. The second is to use it to help in day to day experiences that happen in real time. Either way, this is a powerful way to bring Jesus into your healing journey. If you try this exercise, I would LOVE to hear how it went so please feel free to share any stories with me ..read more

A genogram is an important tool for self-awareness, personal development, and relationship development. It can reveal how a person’s experiences today make sense in the larger context of their family-of-origin and past experiences. A genogram can give you insight into the many different things that have happened in your family, such as negative family dynamics and family struggles, like divorce, death, and broken relationships. It also can help you understand why these things might have happened. Sometimes more insidious traits can be passed through generations. Sometimes there's a genet ..read more

The trauma egg is a great tool to utilize to help gather information about things you've experienced and insight into your upbringing. In this episode I go through the process of completing the trauma egg and why each part of it is important for our healing journey ..read more

This episode I share 3 external tools I use to help with my anxiety. *None of these are paid ad's or products where I get anything from so this isnt a sales pitch, I truly use these tools on a regular basis and want to share my experience with each for you. The first is loop earplugs. These have been lifesavers for me as a busy mom of 4 who gets unbelievably overstimulated by noise. I get very angry and have bad mom rage when Im triggered by noise so I live in these most of the day and they have changed my life forever. I had no idea noise was such a trigger for me until I found these and saw ..read more

Todays episode is a vulnerable one. I am joined by my husband Lorne to share our story publicly for the first time ever.  Our story has a lot in it that you don't see on social media. We lived for years and years in a toxic dynamic that eventually led to a 10 month separation. Our story has every thing you could possibly imagine in it: addiction, abuse, toxic dysfunction, codependency and more. During our separation, we had to truly let our old relationship die so that if we could get to a point to rebuild, it would be on a new solid foundation.  We share our story for a few reasons ..read more