Do you ever experience a sense of detachment from your surroundings? Even in the presence of others, you might feel as though you're not fully engaged.   My former spouse exhibited covert narcissistic traits, and I found myself stuck in a freeze response for decades. I was completely disconnected from reality, wearing a smile that masked my functional freeze.    In this episode, you will learn: What a freeze response actually is How to break out of a freeze response Practical ways to restore your old self    A freeze response can have serious effects on your body and ..read more

Have you been cheated on? My ex-husband was a perpetual cheater, and yet I blamed myself for not being good enough for him. It took years of self-reflection and understanding to see that it wasn’t my fault, and so I want to pass on to you how to break the vicious cycle of cheating and betrayal.   In this episode, you will learn: What is betrayal trauma and how it affects us Why cheating is NOT normal How to stop blaming yourself and see cheating for what it really is   Cheating causes a form of betrayal trauma which can have serious effects on your body and mind. Together we can un ..read more

Are you ready to reclaim your body from the grip of trauma? A healing path exists that will loosen trauma's roots and give you back control. Your wellness is within reach - all it will take is courage to face the past and it will give you power over your present.   In this episode you will learn: Why trauma still lingers in your body after all these years How to set yourself free from stored trauma in your body How addressing core wounds helps healing Insights into health conditions from exploring trauma root causes   Through gentle techniques and facing long-buried trauma, we may ..read more

I used to focus solely on narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery however, I realised I wanted to broaden the podcast to look at trauma and narcissism in a more holistic way.   I'll be sharing my personal journey with you - what led me to make the decision to rebrand and why I now call the show "Trauma and Narcissism Redefined". I'll also introduce you to some new frameworks I've learned, like Internal Family Systems therapy. In IFS we see our inner parts as having good intentions, even when their impact is destructive. I also think it's helpful to view our experiences through a nervous sy ..read more

We often picture a narcissist as being the person who enters a room full of confidence and aims to get the whole room to notice them, however, not all narcissists are the same, and in this episode, I’m going to discuss a type of narcissist that doesn’t get much attention, the Vulnerable Narcissist. What you will learn in this episode: The typical behaviours of a Vulnerable Narcissist How a Vulnerable Narcissist uses sympathy to get what they want What I look for when spotting a Vulnerable Narcissist A Vulnerable Narcissist doesn’t try and win people over through being an outgoing chara ..read more

We hear the word ‘narcissist’ thrown around so much these days, so much so that it feels like everyone is branded with the word. In this episode, I’m going to discuss how the word is used and the differences between the word being used casually and the actual diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. What you will learn in this episode: What the word ‘narcissist’ actually represents. Is the word ‘narcissist’ overused? How a person becomes a narcissist and why we can’t rely on a medical diagnosis.  You shouldn’t feel shame in using the word ‘narcissist,’ after all, it isn’t a ..read more

There are two words that should never be used at the same time, narcissism and parenting. Unfortunately, having children with a narcissist is a situation that so many people find themselves in, and it’s one of the biggest issues people come to me with. So, in this episode, I will discuss how you can raise your children successfully, even when their other parent is a narcissist.  What you will learn in this episode: Why healing yourself is the biggest gift you can give to your children. Strategies you can use to manage your emotions. The common behaviours a narcissistic parent exhibi ..read more

When the narcissist knows you know and they’re exposed for who they truly are, it all unravels for them, but how does their behaviour change? One thing is guaranteed, they won’t admit to being in the wrong and they won’t change their behaviour for the better. All too often, they will try to shift the blame onto you and will do everything in their power to make you look like the bad person. So, in this episode, I will tell you how to deal with a narcissist when the truth starts coming out about the person they really are.  What you will learn in this episode: The common actions a narciss ..read more

Many people feel that a diagnosis of anxiety, depression, or ADHD is a permanent label. However, it doesn't have to be like that. These conditions often stem from past experiences. To heal, it's important to understand and address the root causes of our feelings. In this episode, I’ll discuss how we can look inside and heal from our past, instead of putting a band-aid on our feelings like so many medical diagnoses will do.  What you will learn in this episode: Why modern diagnoses and treatments don’t cure our problems How Somatic Healing can address the root cause of our behaviours ..read more

Narcissistic abuse causes us to act in so many different ways as a response to the trauma, this is our body creating a protector part of ourselves to try and make us feel safe. One of these protector parts can show up as over-explaining! Do you find it hard to simply say “no” to a request, without going into an essay into why you can’t do something? This is over-explaining, and I was the QUEEN of over-explaining.  What you will learn in this episode: How our body creates safeguards that hurt us in the long term Why over-explaining can often make the situation worse What you can do t ..read more