Whether it’s taking you and the kids off of your soon-to-be-ex-husband’s cell phone plan, protecting yourself from a psychotic affair partner who is lashing out on social media, or trying to get out of a lease that you signed in haste when you found out about the affair, legal questions, and legal remedies are all around and more available to us than we might imagine. In this episode, consumer protection attorney Danny Karon shares his tips and wisdom on how to navigate just about any legal questions or concerns that might pop up during your betrayal recovery journey. Top Take-a-Ways: Determi ..read more

In this episode, Lora answers six questions from her Facebook group, Affair Recovery for Women – Flourish After Infidelity. If you’ve got a question that you’d like Lora to answer in her next show, reach out, join her Facebook community, and ask! Join the Facebook Community Here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/affairrecoveryforwomen/ Your Questions Answered: How do you “get over” the act that you will never be your husband’s “last, first,” or anything for that matter. How to stop bringing up the affair, seeking more information, torturing yourself, and condemning him all over again. What are ..read more

How many times have you read books, taken classes, and taken steps to change yourself or your relationship, but couldn’t quite get that change to last? Using the transtheoretical model of change, here is what you need to know in order to make the changes you desire in yourself and your relationship. Roadmap for Successful & Lasting Change: Identify where you are at on the transformation journey: Pre-Contemplation: D-day just happened and you are struggling to come to terms with what happened. (A good time to see a qualified therapist!) Contemplation: You’ve accepted the reality of your s ..read more

Are you ready to wake up from the nightmare of infidelity and betrayal? Do you want to feel calm, confident, and sexy again? Then join me for a Free 5-Day Spring Awakening Workshop, April 8-12, 12-12:30 MST via Zoom. Replays available. Sign up at www.SparkleAllSeason.com   Top take-a-ways: Plant the seeds for what you want to harvest in the next chapter of your life Find and experience calm and confidence during the betrayal recovery journey Falling in love with yourself and feeling sexy and powerful in your own skin The power of being seen, releasing the fear of judgment, and defining y ..read more

Comparing yourself to the other woman, while normal and healthy in ways, can also become obsessive. Instead of being led down a path of hate, revenge, and bitterness, here’s how to understand what you are doing, why you are doing it, and learn to make a healthy, more accurate comparison between you and your level of integrity and self-respect and her, and her level of integrity and self-respect. Top take-a-ways: How comparing yourself to the other woman can give you a sense of power, control, and certainty over the future. Why your cheating partner never actually compared you to the affair pa ..read more

Post-betrayal transformation is NOT what you think it is! The other day I was driving to a venue I had never been to before. From the middle of a random parking lot, with no building in site, Google Maps announced, “you have arrived” to which I responded in frustration, “No, actually I have not!” Although I eventually found my way to the proper venue, it made me think about the glorious moments of transformation we often seek but rarely find and how, when we do arrive, it’s not always as glorious as we thought it would be. How many times have you achieved a milestone and felt strangely let dow ..read more

Defensiveness & Blame – Two Toxic Behaviors that Prevent Healing Defensiveness and blame are two toxic behaviors that both the betraying partner and the betrayed partner can easily slip into. This show, which is geared for both the betrayed partner and the betrayed, will help you both understand what’s at the root of these behaviors and most importantly, how to stop so you can move towards understanding and healing. Top take-a-ways: Denial, diminishment, and gaslighting are three ways that your cheating partner seeks to defend themselves and prevent you from learning the truth. Learn to q ..read more

This show is for the betraying partner who wants to understand themselves, figure out what led to the affair, and support their partner in healing so they can forgive and heal both themselves and the marriage. Want a copy of Shawn's guide to affair recovery for the Betraying Partner? Email lora@loracheadle.com and it will be sent to you! Lora’s husband courageously shares his perspective on affair recovery and some of the things he did to understand his unacknowledged and unexpressed emotions, face his past trauma that led (in part) to him to seeking validation outside the marriage, and how he ..read more

While there are many great books or trainings on couple’s communication, one of the most empowering things you can learn how to do as the betrayed partner is learn how to communicate clearly and advocate on your own behalf. This is especially true for women who are often told to “keep it down, be nice,” or “keep the peace.” Top take-a-ways: Gaining clarity on the purpose of your communication, what you hope to accomplish, and what you want to know. Slowing down, tracking your answers, and preventing emotional flooding. Learning how to use “I statements” followed by a boundary to get what you ..read more

Self-love is not just self-care. Self-love is the ability to be comfortable with yourself and to develop the habit of asking yourself what you need and fulfilling your needs consistently. While you might believe that self-love is optional, or something that you will develop one day when, unless you love yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to love you. Nobody can love you any more than you love yourself. Todays’ episode covers the topics of loving yourself versus loving others, conditional versus unconditional love, and how to give and receive love simultaneously. This week’s challenge is to ..read more