In this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane answer a listener's question about how to live in limbo, without safety, after choosing to stay in a relationship after betrayal.   https://helpingcouplesheal.com/ https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop ..read more

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with a couple about how the HCH couples community has profoundly changed and transformed their relationship. As Corrie and Pat reflect on their experience, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of community and connection in healing from betrayal trauma ..read more

We hope you enjoy this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast. This is a repost of an interview on Sex Help with Carol the Coach where Carol interviewed Marnie about the Helping Couples Heal Online Couples Community and why community is so important for couples recovering from betrayal trauma. To learn more about the community, click the link below. https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community ..read more

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie answer a listener's question about what to expect further along the recovery road for a couple recovering from betrayal trauma. What does moving forward look like after early tasks such as disclosure have been achieved? What's on the other side? Should there be more to compensate for years of acting out and integrity abuse? Marnie and Duane answer some of these questions and explore what life can look like beyond recovery when both partners are very much invested in healing the relationship ..read more

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of full transparency in a relationship traumatized by betrayal. Often we hear from hopeless partners who are in so much pain because after the discovery of betrayal, there remains a lack of integrity, specifically when it comes to full transparency.   Full transparency allows a partner to move from a place of trauma and despair to a place of security, trust, and healing. To those who have betrayed their partner, helping your partner and your r ..read more

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of managing expectations around the time it takes to heal relationships after the discovery of betrayal.  Learn more about our workshop: https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/ Learn more about our online couples community: https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community ..read more

In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame, the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal.  It is crucial that a betraying partner be accountable for their betrayal; shame doesn’t accomplish that. Shame makes healing much harder, perhaps impossible.  What accompanies shame most often is the feeling of hopelessness because it tells you that this (what you have done) is who you have always been and always will be. Rather than conceptualizing your betrayal as behavior that caused trauma to your intimate partne ..read more

PLEASE READ BEFORE LISTENING: Please be advised that we will be talking about sexuality in this episode and, at times, will be using graphic language that may be triggering or bring up uncomfortable emotions for some. The content of this episode will not be appropriate for those of you who have recently had discovery, are in acute trauma or crisis, and/or have not yet (or have just started) to work on relational healing. This episode is for our listeners who are at a place in their healing and couples recovery where they want to begin to explore sexuality after betrayal. We don ..read more

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of pornography, specifically in the context of betrayal. This episode isn't a moral debate about pornography. Instead, it is a candid discussion about the traumatic impact of discovering a secret sexual life on an unknowing partner. "It's just porn" is often used as a way to minimize the damage or pain experienced by the partner who was left in the dark for years. However, by definition, betrayal in itself (regardless of the nature of the sexual behavior) causes complex trauma to those who had no idea about their partner's secret sex life. Pl ..read more

In this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of pornography, specifically in the context of betrayal. This episode isn't a moral debate about pornography. Instead, it is a candid discussion about the traumatic impact of discovering a secret sexual life on an unknowing partner. "It's just porn" is often used as a way to minimize the damage or pain experienced by the partner who was left in the dark for years. However, by definition, betrayal in itself (regardless of the nature of the sexual behavior) causes complex trauma to those who had no idea about their partner's secret sex life. Pl ..read more