I wrote this for you if you have the same old problem, month after month (maybe it's a person, maybe it's a situation, maybe it's an ex . . .) and it just nags at you. Maybe you’re asking yourself, “Should I divorce my husband?” and you’ve been thinking about it for years now, yet there’s no clarity. Maybe there’s another area of your life when you don’t know what to do. The lack of positive change toward something better in our lives can weigh us down, making us feel that nothing seems worth it. When something is wrong for a long period of time, we tend to give up on it. We don’t really know ..read more

One of the most common ways that women ask me for help is when they’ve been blindsided by a husband’s (or partner’s) infidelity. There’s so much more we can do in a coaching session together, but here are five steps we almost always go through in a call together. My Husband Cheated on Me: What Should I Do? 1) Explore Your Options Before you act, before you fall to pieces and go on the offensive, get quiet within yourself. Pretend that you’re a wise, experienced friend looking objectively at the situation. Think about what your practical options really are. At the present moment, do you have th ..read more

Although you may be reading this post much later, I’m writing it at the time of year when many of us think about what we’d like to change in our lives. Especially those sticky bits that never seem to change, no matter what we try and no matter what we do. If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I use all kinds of techniques and modalities in my magic coaching with clients. You might know my reputation as a tarot reader, and that when you receive a reading with me, I also coach on next steps to create the very best outcome for what we see coming up for you. But, you may not know ..read more

Divorce tends to destroy women’s social and family support in a way that never happens for men. Women often find that their still-married friends distance themselves, almost as if divorce (or a husband’s infidelity) is a virus they can catch just by remaining friends with you. Families can tend to blame you, or expect you to patch things up, even if your husband was unfaithful or you have already suffered years of mental or physical abuse. In the face of every difficult, heartbreaking situation, my response always is, let’s find out how to turn this into a blessing, in some way. Here’s why: I ..read more

October: It's the time of year to integrate all that's happened in the past (an entire lifetime in the past) and to welcome in happy transformations that bring us -> -> -> to the life we want . . . you know, all the good stuff that has eluded us so far. October is our annual opportunity to heal so many things about the past SO THAT the coming 12 months can move in the direction that has somehow seemed impossible. Until now. Why is this so? Because we're currently in what is the old-school, pre-modern end of the year . . . and start of the new year on Nov. 1. And when we work with the ..read more

Are you dealing with an ex-husband (or soon-to-be-ex) who is constantly trying to start a fight? Or, you have to text him about something, and immediately, he’s accusing you of all sorts of things, out of nowhere? Maybe he likes to do this at your workplace, or maybe he’s texting you or calling you at all hours of the day and night? It can be difficult not to be drawn into the conflict he always seems to create, and, if you don’t respond at all, the situation rapidly escalates. You may feel that you’re powerless in this situation, and he holds full control over you (even after divorce), becau ..read more

So many of my clients wonder, “When when when will I find true love? Will I ever ever ever find it?” It becomes an obsession with them. And that’s why I did this pick-a-pile tarot reading. Of course, the best way to get real depth on what’s going on with you personally is to receive a personal tarot reading just for you. If you’re interested in that, you can find out more about it here. But, if you choose to view the reading below, it can still open up ways for deeper thinking about your question, and offer insights you may not have considered before. It can help you consider some of the issue ..read more

This one’s for you, if you’re in your 50s (or 60s, or 70s) and thinking about leaving your husband. At the moment, you may think that you’d be willing to sacrifice anything and everything in order to get away from the soul-killing grouch (or worse) you’ve been living with, but you also know there is a lot to lose at this stage of life. Let’s take this step by step, and I’m hoping that, by the time you get to the end of this post, you’'ll have some ideas about the first (or next) steps to take in order to decide if leaving your husband is really worth it. And, if not, some things you can do to ..read more

If you’re coming out of a marriage that was longer than just a year or two, there has been so much time for a spouse to erode your sense of who you are. Most women realize, after divorce, that they gave away so much of their identity during marriage that they’re not really sure who they are anymore. Or who they want to be. So, I made a little video about this, and included an easy and fun first step, with questions to ask yourself so you can get yourself back. How to remember who you started out to be (as a child), who you imagined yourself to be (as a teen and young adult), and all of the pi ..read more

If you’re finally separating from a controlling, egotistical, bullying husband, you might be a little obsessed by the enormous number of articles and websites dedicated to the topic of “Is he a narcissist?” You may feel a sense of confirmation from reading all about narcissistic personality disorder, and potentially diagnosing your ex — and I give my favorite books on the subject at the bottom of this post. But. I have a slightly different take on it. Does it really matter if he is clinically a narcissist? If it helps to put a label on him, I say, feel free. But, if it means that you’re porin ..read more