My dad's room feels very sterile. He has some images of animals on the wall, and one photo frame. Have you found any little things that helped bring some life to a room? submitted by /u/savtheseer [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

My father passed a year ago this month, he was 80 and 2 months after my mother had a stroke and remains in skilled nursing as she is a two person lift and assist. My special needs sis lives with us now. We settled on a local skilled nursing residence less than 30 min away so that we could see her more often. We averaged 3 times a week, sometimes two which was a site more than any others had visited others there by far. I’ve gotten to know many of the residents and they are in such need of smiles, conversation and laughter. I read a review at a competing home for skilled nursing that said: “ 1 ..read more

I guess this is a sandwich generation story as my husband and I are late 30’s, early 40s and are late to the kiddo party, so we have a toddler and another kiddo on the way. I’m struggling with how to handle my aging parents who want to “help” us. Dad is unable to help due to health issues and mom’s suffering from pretty severe depression and showing signs of cognitive decline. They’re unable to be with our toddler alone because he requires a lot of quickness and physical strength, and we had a slew of issues and misunderstandings when the toddler was young around expectations for spending tim ..read more

Hi - I live in Pennsylvania, and we take care of my 88year old mother in our house, as we physically moved her in 8 years ago. She pays no rent, or any bills, or anything, but it is a financial drain. I heard you can get paid to take care of elderly family members, but only if they are 'housebound'. I want to see if we are eligible for a stipend/payment, and i have looked around, but there are so many search results I don't know which are scams, which are brokers, or who's what. My mother still drives (barely) to 1 place, to get her hair done, a mile away. I just want to find out some honest ..read more

My father recently had a bad fall that led to a stint in the ICU. He lives at his home alone, with a friend stopping by to help him with things. He uses a walker, and has some cognitive impairments from alcohol abuse and a mild stroke. This living situation obviously isn’t ideal, but he will not agree to assisted living at this time. His insurance company (UHC Advantage plan) asked me a few questions about his current living situation, and what we have planned after his release. I said assisted living would be the best choice for him, but he may refuse. Also, insurance does know that part of ..read more

Met Dad's ambulance at the emergency room before daylight yesterday after he fell at home. Mom couldn't come, because she's extremely weak from cancer treatment, and with her health situation, doesn't need to be at the hospital and exposed to anything unnecessary. 36 hours of what feels like a forced march, seeing to Dad, seeing to Mom (my brother is tied up right now with his mother-in-law's current health emergency, or else we'd divide and conquer. He at least will be able to take Ma to her oncologist on Wednesday.) Seeing to my own family - 2 middle school kids, disabled husband, and my tw ..read more

I just need to vent a little. Sorry in advance that this is long. Back in February, my mother had to go to the ICU for a very bad gastric bleed. She recovered quickly and I talked my ALF into letting her come straight back home after the hospital. I admit now that this was a bit of a mistake on my part, but it was made worse by the fact that she didn't get in-home PT or OT for more than a week after returning. After two weeks, the healthcare director mandated that she go to rehab. After two weeks in rehab (my mother was a bit paranoid about being tossed out of the ALF, so she actually asked t ..read more

Hi r/AgingParents--I also posted this to r/personalfinance, but am posting here as well to get a more targeted perspective, My two retirement-age in-laws (one working, one not), currently live in one HCOL area, and want to move closer to us (in another far-away HCOL area) to spend time with their one and only grandkid. By working hard, spending very little, and lucking out by buying their HCOL area house in 2010, they're sitting on a home worth $1.5 million, and have about $1.3 million in cash (as far as my wife and I can tell, the cash is 100% in CDs). We've been trying to help them move for ..read more

Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2021. She still lives at her home, where I had been living with her for nearly a decade to care for her. I finally moved out after she assaulted me several times and police became involved. Mom’s neuro wrote her a prescription for a driving eval back in 2022–it took a year to actually get mom to go. Mom failed the driving eval and her driver’s license was revoked in August 2023. (She had been getting into minor fender benders and getting lost while driving). I wanted to sell her car, but the aide I hired for my mom told me not to, that she would prefer dr ..read more

My mom is 80, my dad long gone, and she came to visit me in LA 18 mos ago and fell and broke her hip. Surgery, rehab etc. I moved her out here from Missouri. I work, so does my husband and we have two teen age kids. I am fortunate enough to have been able to buy a 2 bedroom/2 bath condo 5 min from my house - her surgeon said that would be better than assisted living which she refused to do. I have a great 30 year old woman (not a nurse) living with my mom Mon-Fri and my mom stays with us during the weekends. My mom loves her caretaker and so do I. My mom really can’t walk anymore and it’s fre ..read more