This is episode 100, and I wanted to do something a little different for our one-hundredth episode, and I was struggling to figure out what that should be.  Then an opportunity presented itself.  You see, my children are in 4H, and if you don’t know what 4H is, many people describe it as “scouts for farm kids.”   That’s not quite accurate, as we have some kids from the city in our club as well, but a lot of the projects tend to involve farm animals of some sort, and so farm kids naturally gravitate towards those.  But we also do things like archery.  In genera ..read more

November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Spouse falls asleep during romantic getaway Husband wants her to wear revealing clothes Public sex Are we responsible for our dreams? How to encourage your spouse to be healthier Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course) 37 Questions for spouses to ask each other about sex Lately our Introduction to Talking Dirty ebook has been very popular. I'm looking to update and e ..read more

October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Where does the energy come from? Mutual masturbation Sharing fantasies and machines Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz Why do married men masturbate? How do you meet other people? Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight? Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course) Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE Cou ..read more

September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Where are you? How to hide bruises What role do I have in God changing my heart? Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husband How to recover from faking orgasms? Husband wants to be pursued Where do you get your garbage theology? Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course) Upcoming webinar (Jan 21, 2023) about our BMSE Course CovenantEyes - Porn and more ..read more

Why men being submissive is problematic. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. A reader posed the following question: Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic. Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Anonymous have a question page What does our physiology say about who should lead? According to the Bible, which gender should lead? TheLionWithin.us - Leadership for Christian ..read more

August 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Coming clean about faking orgasms Wanting wife to wear a diaper Wet and messy / humiliation fetish Is oral sex a measure of love? Married and lonely Chastity play Sex outdoors Pre-orgasmic wife Last chance to jump in on our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a great way to add some intimacy to the holidays. Interested in learning more? Check it out here and get 25% off with the coupon code BLACKFRIDAY Here are the links I mentio ..read more

Who is more righteous? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. A reader posed the following question: There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or whatever you want to call it), saves sex for marriage, only courts/dates Christians, but never finds a spouse and ends up as a 40-year-old childless virgin ..read more

May and June 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Crossdressing Counseling not fixing her sex drive Should I keep fantasies to myself? Husband addicted to porn Wife has no sex drive FaceTime sex Spouse's facial and body hair Does Viagra work for women? How do I stop her from seeing me as submissive? No sex due to pregnancy complications Wife struggles with overeating How do I stop masturbating? Anal fisting Christmas is coming up, and that means people are startin ..read more

How do you know if you've had an orgasm? Check out the show notes here for more details and links. If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn't orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children...I would say our sex life isn't dry but we aren't all that creative. There have been things that I have suggested doing and have tried but she has told me that they make her uncomfortable (things like me using my ha ..read more

April 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Is it okay to masturbate as a widow? Explaining romance and foreplay Is it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex? Is my wife really having an orgasm? Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous? Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sex Is mutual masturbation wrong in marriage? Nipple orgasms Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your se ..read more