For many gay men, the differences between our lives and those of the heterosexual world can feel staggering and depressing. In this episode, Mitchell shares a story about why we need to connect as brothers more than ever so that we don't wander through this life lost forever, and Travis Salway, a social epidemiologist, shares his views in an in-depth interview. Trigger warning: discussion of suicide.   Music credits: Sound from zapsplat.com 'Sad Emotional and Dramatic Piano' by OYStudio 'Time for something new' by OYStudio 'Despair' by SergeQuadrado ..read more

As a survivor of sexual abuse, Sydney-based writer, Shannon Molloy, felt compelled to speak up: for himself, and for other male victims. In this episode, Shannon joins Mitchell to discuss his new book, You Made Me This Way and his journey to healing. Trigger warning: sexual abuse. Links for support are below: Survivors and Mates Support Network Blue Knot Foundation Lifeline Author photograph by Leon Chen ..read more

When it comes to dating, us gay men can really be up against it. If you don’t fit certain stereotypes, or if you can’t handle the toxicity that runs rife on apps, then just the thought of finding love can seem impossible. But does it have to be that way? In this episode,  Davis and I delve into all of this, and we hear from journalist, Paul Ewart, (interview starts at 30:12) about his experiences with Grindr. You can read Paul's article below: https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/dating/is-tinder-the-new-grindr-why-my-awful-dating-reality-could-become-your-future/news-story/412 ..read more

Gay men share a truly special bond with other women, but what makes it so magical? In this episode, Mitchell and Samuli discuss their relationship with women, and hear from researcher Eric Russell into some reasons why. Plus, men from around the world share their love letters. CREDITS: Music by Lesfm from Pixabay Music by Ashot-Danielyan-Composer from Pixabay Acoustic/Folk Instrumental by Hyde - Free Instrumentals https://soundcloud.com/davidhydemusic ..read more

Shame has been the shadow of most gay men since time immemorial, but can we ever shake it off? In this episode – which is longer than usual – Mitchell speaks with five gay men about dealing with shames of all kinds, from the body, through to coming out or overcoming  abuse and how we can live authentically. Details and times of each speaker’s appearance are below: Davis, South Africa: 06.23 Amador, USA: 33.36 Scott, Australia: 54.25 Kent, USA: 1 hour 15 mins Christopher, Canada: 1 hour 36 mins CREDITS: Acoustic/Folk Instrumental by David Hyde Music by Lesfm from Pixaby Sounds from zapspla ..read more

Why, in 2022, do so many of us gay men still feel so completely alone?  In this episode, Mitchell shares a personal story of an intense friendship with another man and is joined by special guest, Sakhile, who shares his experiences of making connections, while another special contributor, Davis, recalls his experience creating a gay men’s group in South Africa. If you are struggling, or need support, please contact Lifeline: https://www.lifeline.org.au or your local mental health organisation ..read more

Racism is rife amongst gay men, but how does it feel to be on the receiving end? In this episode, Mitchell speaks to Budi Sudarto, a gay Asian Muslim who escaped life in Jakarta in the hope of a new beginning in Australia, and Naveen Kumar, a gay Indian journalist living in the US. They discuss everything from apps, subtle racism, fetishization and how we can work together.  To share your story, visit http://differentkindofgay.com   Links to Naveen’s articles: https://www.them.us/story/queer-poc-body-image https://www.vox.com/first-person/22545485/pride-2020-pandemic-gay-bar ..read more

Dogs might be a man’s best friend, but to gay men the relationship is often so much more. In this episode, a band of gay men from around the world pay homage to the dogs that have shaped – and sometimes saved – their lives. Guests include Dr Rob Garofalo, whose canine companion helped him after an assault and HIV diagnosis, along with Eric from Ohio, Marcos from Brazil, Ian from LA and Ben from Sydney. For more, see http://differentkindofgay.com ..read more

We've made it to season two! In our first episode, we tackle a topic that's long overdue for discussion: monogamy. Tracking down your partner's fake profiles on Squirt or opening up your relationship. This seems to be the only choice for us gay men. But is that actually true? Why is it that so many gay men think monogamy is something outdated, unappealing or unsustainable? And what happens when you are forced to compromise your values simply so you are no longer alone? Along with sharing our own personal stories (all names have been changed) we also chat to one man about the devastating effect ..read more

Friends are sometimes the only family members gay men have. They’re the ones we rely on when everyone else is gone, the ones who listen to our broken hearts and accept us. But why is the quest to find true friends so hard for so many gay men? And what happens when you are betrayed? In this episode we share our journey – and struggles – to make companions worth keeping. Music credits for this episode: Acoustic/Folk Instrumental by Hyde Home by Whitesand Fragments by Nomyn Dawn by Nomyn A Love Surrender Production. Created and written by Goran D and Mitchell J ..read more