Many people that know I’m an intimacy specialist have questions and what to know what measures of sex are considered normal? Some of the questions I hear are: How long do people have sex? How big is the average penis? How do you have good sex? What positions are best for good sex? Where do people most have sex? When do people most have sex? Am I normal? Well, I have to laugh a bit as I hear all of these questions to be honest, because… There is no comprehensive guide to having sex, and if there is a book claiming this they are lying. Sexual norms differ by culture, religion, ge ..read more

The types of intimacy issues that can be potentially solved by online sex therapy are when partners have a different level of desire than the other,  if the couple has issues with intimacy or just wants to expand their sexual enjoyment. Issues that may arise in relation to sexual dysfunction and what impact it has on the relationship and sexual engagement of partners.  This includes but is not limited to erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, if you are experiencing any pain when you have sex, when you have challenges of infertility, struggles in achieving orgasm, sexual shame ..read more

Often, mindfulness and sex can easily go hand in hand. Mindfulness can be defined as the practice of paying attention to what is happening in the moment and not letting our minds wander, which is at times what happens when we are having sex for various reasons. There are many ways we can improve mindfulness, but we'll focus on two: (1) practicing mindfulness in relationships and (2) using mindfulness to maintain intimacy. Mindfulness has been recognized as a way to improve an individual's emotional well-being. It is also a very important tool for couples to use in maintaining intimacy. You may ..read more

You may have consulted with more than one therapist, and now you may not know who to choose. Here are some things to consider when choosing the right therapist for you ..read more

The five love language system created by Gary Chapman are helpful to understand in relationships particularly when it comes to approaching each other and appreciating your partner. Communication is a big tool in relationships and figuring out types of behaviors your partner resonates more within feeling loved can help you understand how to easily appreciate one another. Appreciation is often the first thing we forget to do or often take for granted the longer we are in our relationships, so bringing it to the forefront can reinvigorate your connection and shake things up a bit. We all functio ..read more

In the aftermath of the pandemic, our relationships have endured so many challenges. In California and in San Diego, shelter in place orders often made it difficult for us to find time and space to separate from one another and that may have caused more distress in your relationships. Here is one way to begin rekindling the desire of your relationship. Redefining Your Relationship: When we are in long-term relationships, we often resort to the safety and security we feel within them. Still, the difficulty most deal with is learning how to redefine your relationship to invite the flame of desir ..read more

We know that many are asking the question...what can we expect within the free 15 minute consultation? What will we be discussing? We just want to emphasize that we are really here to help you to get through this...whether you're planning to coming in alone or whether you're coming in with your partner for dating, premarital, couples or sex therapy we are here to support you.  We know it can be really scary to call in and ask for help, but a consultation is different than therapy, so don't worry we're not really going to be diving that deep.  However, the consultation is an opportuni ..read more

Teletherapy vs. In-Person with an Individual Therapist You should ask yourself in what capacity you are willing to see a therapist.  Are you technologically savvy?  Are you comfortable doing things online, or do you feel that having a physical presence is essential to you?  It’s important to first figure out where your comfort level is and then start from that point.  Several research studies have concluded that online telehealth is just as beneficial as in-person therapy. After starting with an online therapist, many individuals may prefer the ease and convenience of bein ..read more

Digital Dating Discoveries:  Dating Apps & Individual Relationship Therapy Online in California Many individuals that I work with in Individual Relationship Therapy Online in California often state that the many frustrations arise with the relatively new method of dating online. With all of the various options of dating apps currently on the market, shouldn’t dating be easy? Especially in this pandemic, shouldn’t we feel more connected? Well, this depends on what approach you take when dating.  Shall we start looking at the various trends in digital dating? It seems it’s pervasiv ..read more

Finding a couples therapist to work with is a very personal choice, and it’s important to find someone that has your best interest at heart. If you are looking for a life coach, counselor, therapist, or psychologist in San Diego - I’d like to help you find someone who can help. It’s important to find someone that specializes in working with couples versus just general practice.  Ask the couples therapist what type of education or coursework they have had that specializes in couples, as it may give you an idea of their expertise. For most couples therapists, the coursework we receive ..read more