Goodbye to cuffing season and hello to horny season As folks transition out of winter and have re-set their clocks forward, it is critical to better understand how single people can approach consensual flirting this spring fever season. Given the turnover from what singles describe as cuffing season to horny season, appreciating the nuanced shades of what exactly do these terms; flirting, wanted vs. unwanted attention, signaling actually mean? Defining and disentangling misinformed beliefs about giving and receiving attention is essential to understanding flirty and/or mating cues whether on d ..read more

How to reduce stigma and become educated on the kink community. BDSM, is an acronym to represent a few different power exchange play practices including:  Bondage and Discipline Dominance and Submission Sadism and Masochism   BDSM has long been misunderstood both by the general public and mental health professionals. This blog will dispel the top 5 of the more common myths about BDSM and Kink.  Myth 1: BDSM and Kink Activities are the same Source: kinkinthecure/Pixabay The terms kink and BDSM are frequently used interchangeably meaning that if one is seen as being kinky o ..read more

How one can learn to become a more authentic, present-focused dating partner.   According to a recent Pew Research survey, 3 in 10 U.S. adults use online dating sites or apps or have at some point in their life.  Among people who have used dating apps recently, 44% of them are using the app to meet a long-term partner. Given that online dating has become more of an acceptable or expected method for singles to meet new partners, it is critical for those using this technology who are using it to meet a future committed partner to learn a more nuanced approach once one is matched with a ..read more

Learn How to Cultivate your Own Erotic Wellness From Thanksgiving Through to New Years Day.    Sometimes, sexuality studies don’t provide us with a full, nuanced picture of what folks are actually experiencing in their erotic lives over the holiday season. Does quantity really increase sexual desire or erotic wellness? As a gift to yourself this holiday season learn how to tell the difference and cultivate your own erotic wellness, pleasure and increased desire. Most Popular Times Folks Report Sexual Activity According to some studies the peak season for folks to have sex are the sum ..read more

Given the recent viral arguments taking place on social media recently debating therapeutic terms like: boundaries, coercive control, ultimatums and consent regarding the past couple made up of surfer Sarah Brady and actor Jonah Hill, I thought defining and discussing these terms could be a helpful tool to many current dating, and/or established partners out there.   What seems to be happening out there on social media platforms like Instagram and Twitter is a war of words about power during relationships and after a break up.  As these two people are public figures and not know ..read more

5 signs you have dating burnout 1. You are losing hope Whether it is because you’ve had your heart broken one too many times or because you’ve been on one too many dates where conversation dwindles before the appetizer arrives–it’s easy to start believing that dating sucks. So many people do! “Dating sucks” is a common adage represented in books, movies, and heard in therapists’ offices. If you are one of the many people who has expressed feeling hopeless in the search for a romantic partner, you may have dating burnout. 2. It’s affecting your mental health All our relationships impact our wel ..read more

June marks the beginning of wedding season. According to the wedding website The Knot, 80 percent of weddings take place between May and October each year. In 2021 there were a total of 1,934,982 weddings in the U.S. After postponing and re-postponing their nuptials because of COVID, 2.5 million people are expected to be married this year–a 15 percent increase from 2021. COVID-19 has shaken up the so-called traditional wedding “rules” and partners are now celebrating their nuptials in increasingly non-traditional ways. After waiting for two years to get married, couples feel less pressure to p ..read more

Research estimates that about 25 percent of committed monogamous relationships face infidelity at some stage of coupledom. After infidelity, many women make misguided assumptions about themselves, the relationship and their partner based on myths that permeate our culture. The first part of this two part series focused on the myth that the relationship is over, and myths that the infidelity happened because the unfaithful partner fell out of love or attraction or because of their narcissism. This second part of this two part series, will bust myths #5 to# 7 of the most common myths believed by ..read more

Most sex therapists, at one time or another, find themselves sitting across from a woman who has just discovered that her husband, boyfriend, wife, or partner has cheated on them. Before those sessions, I work to ground myself so that I can hold space for their shocked, hurt, and rageful reactions.  Research estimates that up to 25 percent of committed monogamous relationships struggle with infidelity at some stage of coupledom. Whether that infidelity is emotional or sexual, involves texting, online chat rooms, or meetings in person, is an ongoing affair, or one-time hookup, involves pai ..read more

March is National Disability Awareness Month. 2022 is the 28th year that the United States has dedicated a month to raising awareness around the support available to people with disabilities and their rights. 61 million people living in the United States are living with a disability. That means that 1 out of every 4 people you know has a disability as defined by U.S. disability law as a physical or mental impairment that substantially limits their life activities including employment and engagement in social and romantic relationships.  Source: Deposit photo/samotrebizan March is also End ..read more