Just wanted to tell someone that understands the huge deal with specialized therapy and that I finally will get help with solving my adopted related issues. submitted by /u/Lostnconfusedadoptee [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi everyone, I need some legal help! Since I was the age of 3 I’ve been in the foster care system! I was adopted by my mom, Naomi (78 female) when I was 5 years old and I am now 20 years old. Ever since I was younger, Naomi always found ways to kick me out her house as if she never loved me. She only adopted me for the money. When I turned 15, I was forced to get a job to pay her which soon I became a manager at this job. I never got a “good job” or a “I’m proud of you” or any of that . Even though she was collecting a check from the state for taking care of me, she never bought me school sup ..read more

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What did you do to help you navigate the fog? Anything your therapist helped you with? Anything you learned that works for yourself? I am in my mid 30s (autistic) and came out of the fog recently. Despite knowing a lot about self nurturing and "parenting your inner child", I am psychologically stressed beyond what I can manage. I am (USA) looking for an adoption informed therapist within my network (tough to find) and currently don't have enough money to pay for someone outside of my network. I am noticing more autistic meltdowns as a way to off load the emotional stress. Any tips on how to d ..read more

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So I was separated from my father at birth. Well not separated, my bio mom omitted my existence to him and I was put up for adoption. I was raised by adoptive parents and met my biological dad over Facebook in 2021 . He wasn’t exactly surprised and we have chatted over the years and it’s been a really good relationship. We were making plans to visit him over the summer (I’m in Chicago he’s in Texas) and as we hung up and he said “love you , bye” which really made my day. Out of all the the parental figures in my life it’s been abusive and traumatic , but with him it’s been really good and I’v ..read more

I've just been having a ton of feelings about my adoptive family and was wondering if anyone here had similar experiences growing up. My adoptive mother has always been emotionally smothering. Growing up, she was so obsessed and worried about me abandoning her that she would be very controlling. She was so intense that I felt guilty for even going to college and she constantly said that I needed to call her every single day and that we are supposed to be best friends. We cant have that kind of relationship no matter how much she claims she wants it because shes so emotionally immature, has ne ..read more

I am 30F, my family consists of the eldest brother- adopted, two years later two sisters both bio. Then me 10 years later- adopted- the youngest. My brother and I have always gotten along. I always knew I was adopted- I was adopted at 8years old. However it wasn’t until middle school he mentioned he was as well. He was adopted at 1 year old. I began to question then, why did my sisters treat me differently? The Eldest is best indifferent, the younger one is hostile and has never been shy to tell people I’m adopted and has said to our parents she wished they never adopted me. But they adore my ..read more

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I've been home for several days following the double surgery and week-long hospital stay, but I'm struggling. I'm angry and I'm so very sad. My girls will never have to try to hold life together with their spouses as they recover, because I will be there to manage everything they need to recover as quickly and smoothly as possible. But it's bullshit that I don't have that support as well. I destroyed my back for the two people who were supposed to love and support me no matter what and they're no where to be seen. Most of the time I'm used to having been abandoned by my parents. Sure, it suck ..read more