If your spouse has had multiple affairs, it can be hard to believe they have truly repented. When is enough enough? This was the question from a listener named Greg: Dana, I am so thankful you are doing the series on affairs. As a man, it’s really hard to admit that my wife does not find me desirable. She has found love in the arms of another. The problem is she keeps saying that she’s sorry. I found out a few months ago that she is involved in yet another of these situations. I’m sure you can understand what that must do to a man. I love her. She’s a great mother. But I’m wondering how many t ..read more

We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a stark difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says, “I am someone bad.”  This episode is for any person who has ever suffered the betrayal of their partner and it's also for the one who has betrayed. No sh ..read more

Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question:  I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve ever had a high sex drive. But I want him to be happy. I know it’s important to him. I’ve listened to some of your podcast episodes in the shameless sex series. You did a while back. Are there any quick fixes you can give for those of us who strug ..read more

As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the aftermath of discovering a partner’s infidelity. Let’s unravel the emotional journey, practical steps, and the pathway to healing after the shattering revelation of a spouse’s unfaithfulness. Respond ..read more

A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may need to be addressed sooner than later. The purpose of this podcast is not to make you paranoid or suspicious of your spouse but to shed light on any deception in your marriage you may be unaware of. Remember, you can’t fix what you don’t face.&nb ..read more

Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listener and hope that you, too, will find answers should you find yourself in this unfortunate situation.  Have a marriage or relationship question you want to submit for the show? Do so at rebuildinguspodcast.com/contact or send me a message on Insta ..read more

We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have little to no boundaries, so it's no wonder couples find themselves cheating on their spouses against their good intentions.  This conversation is as real as it gets. If you want to protect your marriage from infidelity or are in the middle of t ..read more

Welcome to the all-new "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast, formerly known as Real Relationship Talk.  I'm your host, Dana Che, marriage coach, and your guide on this journey to rediscovering the beauty and strength of your marriage. In a world where relationships are easily broken and discarded, this podcast is your lighthouse. All is not lost.  Join us as we explore the stories of couples who have overcome all kinds of adversity, reignited their love, and rebuilt their marriages from the ground up. Oh, and I’m not shy about my own marriage being restored from adultery. It’s why I do th ..read more

I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process. There is significance in the naming of something. Real Relationship Talk served us well, and now, we're hitting full throttle with Rebuilding Us. As I reflect on the challenges and triumphs of my own marriage, I recognize the need to create a more intentional space where ..read more

My hubby, Shaun, is back! We're engaging in a candid conversation about the fundamental needs of both men and women in marriage, shedding light on respect, security, and leadership within relationships. Sharing some of our personal stories and insights that can help couples foster a deeper understanding of each other's needs and strengthen their bond is what we're after.  Men can learn what women truly mean when they say they need security (it's not always what you think). Women can learn how to respect their husbands even when they disagree. Both spouses can learn what healthy leadership ..read more