Sexual desire, or libido, as we call it in The Biz, is a complex interplay of biological, psychological, and social factors. While it’s common for sexual desire to ebb and flow throughout one’s life, sometimes individuals may experience significant and unexpected fluctuations or struggles with their libido. These fluctuations can be influenced by various factors, and understanding them is crucial for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual life. Low libido is more common than you think.  Self-reported rates of men with desire problems range from 4.8% in the United States (Laumann 2009 ..read more

In the following content, the terms “women” and “men” are used to refer to individuals based on traditional gender identities. While we acknowledge and respect the diversity of gender identities and expressions, we have opted to use these terms for clarity and accessibility. We understand that not all individuals identify with the gender binary, and we strive to create inclusive and welcoming spaces for everyone, regardless of gender identity. Our intention is to communicate information in a way that is widely understood and relatable while recognizing the importance of respecting individual i ..read more

For years, I have been working as a gynecologist whose clinical focus is pelvic and sexual health, and I consistently receive several questions regarding sex health. I receive requests concerning sexual health from both patients wanting expert counsel and interested friends looking for trustworthy information. Surprisingly, the number of queries I receive concerning sex often outnumbers those about more complex medical concerns. Some of these questions are easy, while others fall into the complexities of human sexuality. While I aim to offer complete answers, the reality is that the field of s ..read more

Maintaining good hygiene is essential for overall health.  This concept is nothing new.  In fact, hygienic practices have evolved over millennia.  As a society, for the most part, we seem to value good hygiene and clean bodies nowadays.  I guess you could say we’re in our Clean Era.  Just think about all the time, energy, and money dedicated to health, wellness, and beauty in modern life. Hygiene as a part of daily life is not unique to people.  We see these behaviors in animal species as well.  Images of chimps picking dirt, plants, dried skin, bugs, etc., f ..read more

Think back to your high school years: going through puberty, experimenting sexually for the first time, and understanding your body in a new way. Add on your peers talking about sex in the stereotypical, usually heterosexual sense, and your parents having the birds and the bees talk with you (which was most likely incredibly uncomfortable and couldn’t end fast enough). The conversations you had with your peers, family, or internally might not have given you the full picture of what your sexual preferences mean. Well, this is the adult version of the birds and the bee’s conversation, but we str ..read more

Sex is more than a physical act. It has the potential to be a powerful experience that can provide benefits ranging from the physical to the emotional to the relational and beyond. And though it’s often touted as an act of pleasure, its benefits extend far beyond momentary gratification. Sex, whether solo or partnered, is associated with a range of potential rewards, including improved sleep, boosted mood, a strengthened immune system, happier relationships, and an overall improvement in the quality of life. If you need one more reason to prioritize sex, feel free to pick one from the eleven s ..read more

As a urologist, I get asked about sex a lot from my patients and friends alike. In fact, I get more questions about sex than urination.  Some of these questions are straightforward, while some can be specific and complicated. While I wish I could say I have the answer to every question I get, that simply isn’t the case.  Even as a sexual health expert, I’m constantly learning.  I learn from my colleagues, and I learn from my patients. I’m fortunate to have an avenue like this to share my knowledge. What follows is a collection of the most commonly asked questions I get about sex ..read more

If you are someone who has a penis, chances are you have experienced a boner (whether welcomed or not). While an erection is defined by the dictionary as an enlarged and rigid state of the penis, typically caused by sexual excitement, there are plenty of other reasons for getting hard. Curious about the different types of boners? Here’s the long and short of it. The Puberty Erection Let’s start from the beginning. Believe it or not, biological baby boys can begin to get boners before they are even born, also known as the phenomenon of fetal erections. Baby erections, while totally normal, are ..read more

Where is the Male G-Spot? Although we can’t exactly draw you a map, we can tell you that the male G-spot is actually the prostate gland. The male G-spot is a gland about the size of a walnut, and it’s located right under a guy’s bladder. Obviously, it’d take more than a free sample of lube to go poking around inside a man’s organs, but don’t worry — you don’t need any special equipment to stimulate your guy’s G-spot. Much like the female G-spot, the male G-spot is about two inches in, and toward the belly. If a man is feeling excited, you can stimulate this magical male G-spot directly with bu ..read more

Throughout history, alcohol has played a prominent role in human culture and social interactions. It serves as a means of relaxation, celebration, and stress relief for many people.   For others, it’s a form of liquid courage.  Alcohol may be a go-to way to whoop it up for many, but it may also be the reason your sex life remains flaccid. The negative effects alcohol can have on health are well established.  According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, excessive alcohol use led to more than 140,000 deaths and 3.6 million years of potential life lost (YPLL) e ..read more