Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it. Out of the gate, with someone new, it's smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutual sharing, and emotional maturity. Oversharing personal traumas can burden the budding relationship and skew its potential for growth. Whether you're single, dating, or looking to improve your emotional connections, this episode of #saveyoursanitypodcast share strategies and practices you need, to proce ..read more

SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right? Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your expectations now. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: #Hijackals are emotionally immature. Check your expectations when you approach a narcissist. Expecting equality? Oops! Often feel you're talking to a tiresome toddler or demanding teenager when you try to reason with a Hijackal? Why you need to do your own wo ..read more

Narcissists ask for too much...and they expect to get it. It's essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you've been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have stopped hearing their questions as outrageous; This episode will sharpen your listening skills and increase your sensitivity to questions that are intrusive, violating, and need a solid NO answer. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Listen for outrageous questions. You may have become used to them, Narcissists want power over you. Meaning of 'coercive control" Learn to diffuse the outrageous question ..read more

Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong...even when you're right!. You never know what mood they'll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent. They are intimidating! They keep you on edge! What can you do to reduce the intimidation? Listen to this episode. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Narcissistic people are likely to engage in several kinds of abuse: verbal, physical, sexual, financial, emotional or spiritual Hijackals use intimidation as a quick way to win, or silence someone Change your perspective and stop allowing yourself to be les than equal. Use ..read more

Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Get extra goodies? Attention? Time? Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity. Have a sibling who is the Golden Child? You envied them and now you se them differently? VERY IMPORTANT EPISODE to straighten your thinking about yourself and others who were treated as Golden Children growing up. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Why being the Golden Child is not a great role help to understand the downsides of being raised by a narcissistic parent Recognize the lasting effects of being the ..read more

Narcissists love it when you run after their approval. You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away. In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a Hijackal - save your energy, save your time, save your self-esteem. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Hijackals want you to please them They make it very difficult to do Why narcissists always need to be right Refusing to remember the truth makes things impossible I'm here to help. Let's talk soon. Rhoberta FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER... WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com P ..read more

You want someone--at least one someone--to hear you, see you, believe you. So you share. Sadly, that often turns into oversharing, leaving you a little red-faced. if you fully embarrassed a little later, right? "Why did I do that?"  There are good reasons you overshare. Don't beat yourself up for it. Listen in to understand the "whys" and stick around for the "why nots!" so you can make positive changes in what you share and with whom. You can stop oversharing, and still be heard when you talk with the right people.  HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: The longing to be known The desire t ..read more

Steps to emotional freedom require knowing where the path starts. These five "must-haves" are fundamental to saving your sanity, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Know the importance of each of these and how to keep them top of mind. Develop enough strength to follow the "healthier human" path to avoid being sucked down the "Hijackal human" one. YOU CAN!!  HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: How to not get sucked into Hijackal drama Gaining perspective about how the narcissist's mind works Creating emotional distance when the narcissist is accusing you Dr. Shaler's most important mantra for sa ..read more

Oh, how Hijackals love to poke, prod, and provoke you into losing it and reacting, right? And then they like to wind you up further so you'll yell, blame, complain, and meltdown. Crazy-making? Yes, INTENTIONALLY CRAZY-MAKING! Learn ways to not go there, to not react, to not behave like the Hijackal...or the way the Hijackal wants to manipulate you into behaving, How to choose control and calm instead. Yay! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: Nasty, manipulate way to make you out to be the abuser - Don't let it happen. Be careful: Hijackals and other narcissists attempt "reactive abuse" to kee ..read more

Narcissistic Hijackals know what you want. Yet, they withhold giving it to you. They know what you need. Yet, they refuse to fulfill it. They know how to make you happy, but prefer disappointing you. Think deeply about these five "would be good" things narcissists promise but fail to deliver...and, they do it very deliberately. There are real deal-breakers...when you actually see them. Listen in. Don't be fooled by the promises!!! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 5 good things that Hijackals promise you, that they won't deliver on Why you need to be VERY clear that you are thinking you are being ..read more