Between my own experiences, the secondary partner, and conversations with connections and lovers, I now have some insights about nonmonogamy and openness. The second Sagittarius, the second Taurus, another connections through chat who has become a friend, and a connection I briefly had with another man who is solo poly, all people who, in the open and honest sharing of their experience with ..read more

I was not looking for love when I started this journey. I had love, In my mind, I was looking for sexual experiences.My husband commented that he'd never seen me so happy as when I was in the midst of my journey through the Zodiac. Conversely, he's never seen me so sad and broken as I have been in my love affair with the secondary partner. The relationship being arguably the hardest thing I've ..read more

I could not have journeyed this road if I hadn't been emotionally detached and driven by my intellect.Don't get me wrong, I've had emotions. Sometimes, some of them have been quite strong, but I had to keep my wits about me in order to have my intuition swinging at full capacity. The intellectual nature of this journey both freed me to have it and kept me safe in it. The lack of depth in ..read more

Having taken this amazing journey and, now, having written about it, a friend has greatly encouraged me to start making some money on my efforts by moving my content to Medium.com and continuing to write there.I dislike cluttering my blog with advertisements and affiliate links so, I've avoided those money making tactics for your sakes and mine.Medium.com takes it's "partner program" fees and ..read more

This was a rather sexually insignificant experience on my journey, but as I was about my business this morning it came to mind and, while I thought on it, I felt it was such a dear memory to me that I decided to share it.I have highly valued the freedom to be me and to embrace my love of spontaneity which my husband has afforded me as he trusted me to know what was safe and sound, and what wasn't ..read more

  As stated in previous posts, limitations, in and of themselves, aren't an indication of strength. They are ways in which you are limited. The partner had a real qualm with this. He challenged me by saying he saw limitations as strengths. While acknowledging you have a limitation is an indication of strength of personhood, having the limitation is an indication of weakness in one area or another ..read more

"When we rely on the structure of our relationship, whether that is through being monogamous with someone or practicing hierarchal forms of CNM, we run the risk of forgetting that secure attachment is an embodied expression built upon how we consistently respond and attune to each other, not something that gets created through the structure of hierarchy." Polysecure, Attachment, Trauma and ..read more

 Meaningful consent for casual sex encounters isn't an external set of guidelines that should be observed, it's an internal attitude which recognizes that another autonomous individual is responsible for themselves and, that, whether or not you can have a connection is dependent on how well their personality and autonomous desires match up with yours. It's when you are the kind of person who ..read more

I'm about to state something that should be more than obvious to my readers at this point:Sex is really important to a lot of people."It's not uncommon to hear someone who is trying to describe nonmonogamy to their family and friends, or speak about it in a professional or public setting, emphasize that CNM (consensual nonmonogamy) is not just about sex, but rather about the increased love ..read more

 My husband and I have been watching the Netflix original, Sex/Life. It has hit a few cords with me.At one point, in the main character's storyline, when she's in an intense, internal battle between wanting the man with whom she had previously had sexual passion and wanting the life she'd built with her kind hearted husband, she went to a psychologist friend to get advice. He responded to her ..read more