Content warning: shame after sexual assault, rape culture In this episode, Mel and Alayna are sharing their personal experiences growing up Christian and the values pushed onto young people about sex. We are coming from the place of people who were assigned female at birth, raised Christian in the Bible belt, and advocates within the anti-violence movement. We share our personal experiences and opinions in this episode, but we want to hear from YOU! Please follow the link below to send us your voice memos about sex and shame to be included in a future episode. You can also email us.  *We ..read more

This is part two of a two part episode. In this episode, Kellie McClure from Ampersand Sexual Violence Resource Center in Lexington, KY joins Mel G. and Alayna to discuss consent in reality TV, specifically the Bachelor and the Bachelorette. From contracts, to producers, to sex: what are they really able to consent to? Our conversation covers these themes and mentions of sexual assault and harassment on the shows. Mel G. and Kellie are well-versed in Bachelor Nation, but our conversation explains details for those who may not have ever watched an episode (like Alayna). Consent, or lack there o ..read more

In this episode, Kellie McClure from Ampersand Sexual Violence Resource Center in Lexington, KY joins Mel G. and Alayna to discuss consent in reality TV, specifically the Bachelor and the Bachelorette. From contracts, to producers, to sex: what are they really able to consent to? Our conversation covers these themes and mentions of sexual assault and harassment on the shows. Mel G. and Kellie are well-versed in Bachelor Nation, but our conversation explains details for those who may not have ever watched an episode (like Alayna). Consent, or lack there of, is everywhere in our culture. Check b ..read more

Content warning: sexual assault, sexual harassment, transphobia, child abuse, physical violence In this episode, Mel and Alayna are joined by Hope Harbor volunteers, Ebony and Colin, to discuss cancel culture. We discuss Bill Cosby, Kobe Bryant, R. Kelly, J.K. Rowling, Shia LaBeouf, Antonio Brown, Justin Timberlake, Jason Moma, James Franco, and a few others. We discuss cancel culture in relation to sexual assault and harassment accusations and convictions as well as other forms of violence and exploitation. This episode was recorded before Bill Cosby’s conviction was overturned and he was rel ..read more

"When we do work within, we heal around." -Cre Dye This episode is part two of a conversation Alayna and Mel had with Dr. Cre Dye. We were able to discuss shame, especially shame surrounding sex. This episode picks up where Alayna left off after using the term "non-men" to refer to experiences of women, nonbinary and trans people. Content warning: there is discussion of signs of child abuse in reference to child masturbation. We highly recommend finding Cre and all the amazing things she has going on on Facebook at Cre Dye Yoga & Healing and Instagram at @credyeyoga  *We are asking fo ..read more

In this episode, Dr. Cre Dye joins Alayna and Mel to discuss how we can heal our communities and effectively heal ourselves. A bunch of us at Hope Harbor are big fans of Cre's yoga, holistic approach to counseling, and her involvement in the community. We couldn't fit all of her accomplishments and involvements in this bio. We highly recommend finding her on Facebook at Cre Dye Yoga & Healing and Instagram at @credyeyoga This episode is part one of two. Marked "explicit" for a couple curse words.  This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we ..read more

Content warning: sexual assault, childhood sexual assault, abuse In this episode, Alayna and Mel talk with friend and Hope Harbor volunteer advocate about her healing journey after abuse, bisexuality, and poly relationships. We discuss the privilege of sex positivity and how identifying as a survivor has helped others. We also discussed how "sexual subcultures" can be empowering and are rooted in (like BDSM) consent and communication.  This podcast is brought to you by Hope Harbor, A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center where we provide free, confidential services to anyone impacted by sexual vi ..read more

Content Warning: Discussion of trauma, child abuse, BDSM and kink culture, pornography, and domestic violence In this episode, Alayna and Mel are joined by a friend of the podcast who is an active member of the BDSM lifestyle. She discusses her personal journey learning and joining the BDSM community as a survivor of trauma. The discussion covers why BDSM can be healthy, why communication and consent is important, and how pop culture's portrayal is not an accurate depiction.  This episode is Part One of a two part discussion with our special guest. So please join us for our next episode w ..read more

Content Warning: Discussion of trauma, eating disorders, and substance use In this episode, Alayna and Mel are joined by coworker and Hope Harbor counselor Megan Kyle, LPCA. Megan shares her journey into becoming a counselor and her interest in holistic healing options for survivors of trauma. We discuss Equine Assisted Counseling/Therapy, sound baths using singing bowls, trauma informed yoga, and meditation. Our goal for this episode was to encourage our listeners to normalize mental health support and expand knowledge on alternative healing opportunities.  Still Not Asking For It is pr ..read more

Welcome to Still Not Asking For It! A podcast brought to you by Hope Harbor: A Sexual Trauma Recovery Center in south central Kentucky. We plan to offer regular episodes where Hope Harbor staff, volunteers, and community partners will discuss issues that surround sexual violence and rape culture. We hope to be a resource for survivors, anyone who knows a survivor (which is like everyone), and professionals to improve understanding around these issues.  For more information about Hope Harbor and our services you can check out hopeharbor.net , where you can also find our blog, Thanks for As ..read more