The post How to Change Your Marriage appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. How to Change Your Marriage If you find yourself googling “how to change your marriage,” there is a good possibility that you have a lot of love for your partner, but the connection you once had has either become stale, hard, or overly comfortable. Maybe you have gone through personal changes in your life and perceive your partner hasn’t, which creates misunderstanding and lack of common interests. Maybe you’re desiring a reconnection to yourself and partner because you feel you have lost yourselves. Maybe you ..read more

The post How to Navigate a Breakup appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. How to Navigate a Breakup | A Relationship Therapist’s Story and Tips on How to Cope Written by Lauren Aldridge, MA, MFT-C and co-written by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT How to navigate a breakup isn’t as black or white as we have often heard. Breakups cause the painful stuff that countless poems, songs, books (and now this blog post) talk about. A broken heart is a universal human experience. It seems to also be one of the many inevitabilities of life- so why does it feel so uniquely isolating when you your ..read more

The post Why Do I Feel Guilty all the Time? appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. Why Do I Feel Guilty all the Time? | Here’s our hunch and what you can do about it Do you often question, “Why do I feel guilty all the time?” Feeling guilty is a common issue we support our clients with. It seems “feeling bad” about something can be the result that comes up in any aspect of our lives and can often drive a person to feeling shameful, depressed and/or anxious. From experiences such as worrying about our work performance, setting boundaries with friends or family, or trying to ask fo ..read more

The post Why Does My Partner Need Space? appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. Why Does My Partner Need Space? If you have found yourself disheartened with the question, “Why does my partner need space when we argue?” this article may be just what you need in order to build more understanding. Most couples find themselves at times in an repeated conflictual cycle that gets easily activated and is often challenging to repair. Regardless of what you’re arguing about, one person seems to always want space, while the other is desperate to talk things out immediately. This can be frustrat ..read more

The post How to Stop Parenting Your Partner appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. How to Stop Parenting you Partner and What to Do Instead How to stop parenting your partner may seem like a challenging process, because you’ve probably tried everything you can think of. You may be on the verge of breaking up, or finding yourself fantasizing about that green grass on the other side. Before making any rash decisions, we would highly suggest taking a moment to reflect. When we find ourselves in this position, it is crucial to do some internal work verses stay stuck in the place ..read more

The post Stop Trying To Fix Everything in Your Relationship appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. “Stop trying to fix everything in your relationship!” may be something you’ve heard a bazillion times. Maybe it’s something you didn’t even know you were trying to do; but you just know you hate when the one you love struggles or when there is conflict between the two of you. Your intentions are sincere. You want to keep the peace and make “negative” feelings go away. Your natural go-to is to logically assess the situation, then fix the uncomfortableness. So you may be confused as to why ..read more

The post Why Doesn’t She Want to Have Sex? | The Common Couple Dilemma appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. “Why doesn’t she want to have sex?” is a common question we often hear in couples therapy. Sometimes, this may be the question that brings a couple or an individual into therapy to begin with. Of course there is never a one-size-fits-all answer to any one question, but I can share with you what I have learned in the years of being a couples therapist that may be helpful to you if you find yourself on this blog. Many times, women are identified with having a low to non-existent ..read more

The post Questions to Ask Your Couples Therapist appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. Here is a list of helpful questions to ask your couples therapist as you are exploring options for you and your partner. When you are shopping around for couples therapists, it is important that you find someone you feel a connection with, right? Unfortunately, your search can feel really overwhelming at first, especially if you don’t have a personal referral from a trusty friend or family member. What do you even look for to identify if they are the right fit? First, start with searching therapist ..read more

The post What to Expect in Couples Therapy appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. “What to expect in couples therapy?” Is an important question you may be asking yourselves if you have never done it before. Counseling in general may seem overwhelming, as you know it can drudge up feelings that you have been trying to keep dormant for a loooooong time. Add your partner in the mix and it can feel even more daunting as you both feel uncomfortable feelings. Often times, people that have never done couples therapy can feel nervous that the boat is going to tip over, not just rock. Couples ..read more

The post Prepare Your Relationship for New Baby appeared first on www.modernlovecounseling.com. Prepare Your Relationship for New Baby : 5 Things to Consider So you’re having a baby! Or thinking about it… With all that spare time during 2020 transitions, it makes sense that there is a huge baby boom on the rise. It’s exciting and scary… and all of the things, right?! So how do you prepare? Having my first baby was one of the most unpredictable experiences I have ever gone through in my life. Even being a Relationship Therapist, I was not prepared for what I encountered as a new mother, or the ..read more