Our attachment styles indicate how secure, anxious, or avoidant we feel around emotional intimacy in our relationships. This aspect of emotional intimacy and trust around closeness and vulnerability can’t help but impact how we experience sexual connection. Some folks at Kourtney Kardashian’s lifestyle magazine Poosh reached out to interview me ..read more

I was just in Lyon, France, and one of Lyon’s points of pride is the vital role it played in the resistance movement against the Nazis in WWII. And one of the tools used by the resistance fighters were the Traboules—secret passageways through the winding streets, originally built for the silk workers in the 1500s ..read more

Happy World Sexual Health Day! ? This year’s theme, Positive Relationships, is a powerful reminder that sexual health goes beyond just the physical aspect. Sexual health isn't just about avoiding illness but about building healthy relationships based on trust, communication, respect, compassion, and emotional connection ..read more

The Olympic Village is known for its youthful and celebratory energy, but should that include having sex? A journalist at CBS National News reached out to me to inquire whether sex for the Olympic athletes could be harmful or helpful ..read more

Love Land, the erotic Sculpture Park in Korea Two weeks ago, I visited South Korea, and specifically Jeju Island. Jeju Island has been known over the years to Koreans as a “honeymoon island,” with its beaches, old volcanos, and resort areas. Jeju Island also has a bizarre variety of museums (apparently due to being a tourist destination and also specific lenient tax laws for museums). I was delighted to discover that one of these many unique museums was a place called Love Land, an erotic sculpture museum! My boyfriend and I wandered for over an hour around the many large statues of people in ..read more

National Best Friends Day is a good time to reach out to a friend…or create some new friendships. Happy National Best Friends Day! ? In the midst of our country’s loneliness epidemic, we know that deep connections are vital for our individual and community well-being. I'm grateful to NBC Houston for inviting me to discuss this important topic a few days ago for National Best Friends Day (the “holiday” was on June 8). I shared about the science behind the impact of friendships and offered practical steps for adults to cultivate new connections. Watch the broadcast here on the importance of f ..read more

I’m in a Zoom event, listening to a man in his mid-40s share a personal story and a recent struggle in his family. And 45 seconds later, I’m not listening to him. My chat notification showed 3 new messages, so I clicked to see what I’m missing. Someone has written that they are going through a similar thing. Someone else has included the name of a new book on this topic. And others are sending heart emojis in support. Wait, what did the speaker just say? I can tell by the look on his face that it was vulnerable and uncomfortable, but I don’t know what he said. I nod and put an empathetic lo ..read more

Old-Fashioned Twist to the terms Boyfriend or Girlfriend I've long wished we had better terminology than "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" for adults who are not married but are in serious long-term relationships. So a male friend and I recently interrogated ChatGPT-4 to brainstorm new ideas. What's your favorite? I'll share our favorites at the end. ? Me to ChatGPT-4: Boyfriend and girlfriend feel like ridiculously childish-sounding names, especially in a professional work context. What suggestions do you have for other names? I know "partner" is often used, but I'm looking for other ideas. ChatG ..read more

To end sexual assault in society, we just need to lock up the bad guys, right? Unfortunately, sexual assault prevention requires a complex shift in how we as a society and we as individuals view sexual and emotional topics. And how we interact with others. Sure, there are some bad apples out there, but what about the majority of sexual trauma that comes from acquaintances, family, and friends? In an exclusive interview with Health News, I address the “grey areas” in so many sexual encounters and what leads to sexual coercion…and what we can all do about it. Here are a few snippets from the int ..read more

Expert tips for enhancing sexual desire in long-term relationships Why does desire often fade in long-term relationships? What gets in the way of feeling sexual desire towards your partner in a long-term relationship or marriage (even when you still find them attractive)? And what are tips to cultivate more sexual desire? I sat down (over Zoom) with Sarah Regan at mindbodygreen to talk through all of these questions and get into the nitty gritty of sexual desire. There are a lot of misunderstandings around desire, pleasure, and needs, and I offered 5 tips to help couples move through sexual d ..read more