From our experience in the lifestyle, we feel that there are 3 stages or types of consensual non monogamous relationships and how your relationship can progress through all three or just comfortably stay within one. Now some questions: Do boundaries or control keep us from moving through each stage? Can we grow in the midst of boundaries? Can we learn to let go of control in our relationship? What happens when we relinquish ownership over our partner? Listen to this episode below, Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, or on your favorite podcast platform! The post Letting Go of Control – Podcast ..read more

You’re into what?!? You know what you’re doing is wrong, RIGHT? Yes, that could be one of the knee jerk responses you could face if you come out as being in open relationships. Thus, it’s understandable if it’s scary to not tell anyone about your lifestyle preference. Today, John and Jackie talk about their rather different stories on how each of them came out and the consequences of what happened next. P.S. Have you or your partner thought about taking your relationship to the next level? Have you breached the topic of consensual non monogamy with your partner and now you want to give it a tr ..read more

We all have them. That one friend we look to for inspiration and vision. For me that’s Bob Hannaford. I’ve known Bob for over 9 years. I was introduced to him by my husband John. John and Bob have worked together on a ton of projects. Each joint effort was done to provide an amazing event for the swinging community and to reach new open minded couples looking for a place to explore their own authentic sides. John and I have traveled with Bob and his amazing wife Tess multiple times and I know without a doubt I could call Bob night or day and he’d be there for me. With this being said, I was fl ..read more

I want to talk about honesty. Okay, great topic. What about honesty? John and I talk quite extensively about the value of honesty in a relationship. We talk about how vital it is to be able to have honest communication, that without honesty neither partner will be unencumbered or free to express themselves. We say all this, without delving into what can happen when our honesty is used against us. Nor do we discuss why some of us do this to our partner. But I received an email which gave me pause. An email that stopped me in my tracks. A cautionary tale into what can happen when we spout our lo ..read more

What happens when the fear of losing our partner keeps us from opening up a relationship? It’s easy to let the danger of allowing past relationships/history to define your current union. After all, you may have been cheated on, which leads you to believe that EVERY person will cheat. But how can we fight that feeling? How can we create new and positive experiences as a way of growing past our fear? How can we not let those triggers control us and drive fear into your relationship? Not too many people take the time to walk all the way through their fears and challenge them. But what happens whe ..read more

At our colette lifestyle clubs, we’re starting to see more and more people with diverse desires (and hence labels) in their open relationship. Many years ago, it was just the term “swinger” and that encompassed practically all of us. However, these days it’s a whole lot different with many new terms as this beautiful relationship model is continuously evolving. So which “label” are you? That’s what we’ll be talking about in today’s YouTube video! The post Diversity of labels in open lifestyle appeared first on Openlove101 ..read more

Good morning Jackie!! Thank you so much for your time. I have a question. Do you become familiar with people that John dates or does John go on dates with people that you may never meet or with people that do not want to know any details about you or your relationship with John? And vice versa, do you go on dates with men that never meet John or that don’t want to know about or be involved with any aspect of your relationship with John? My partner and I are coming across play dates that either get upset when they find out we have a significant other or they set the boundary that they don’t wan ..read more

We talk about a couple of important things in this video. We started with the popular male topic of what to do if you can’t get or stay hard (we share a few solutions), but then stumble onto the discussion of “is sex all about penetration”? The post Is Sex All About Penetration? appeared first on Openlove101 ..read more

When people think Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), many of them think about the exciting and juicy non-monogamy part where you get to have sex with multiple partners. Lots of it. A lot of the time. But is that true? Is that what CNM is all about? Let’s explore and discuss that today! The post Is Consensual Non-Monogamy All About Sex? appeared first on Openlove101 ..read more

John and I recently found ourselves discussing how much we have progressed as a couple. How we’ve pushed ourselves to respond differently to issues that in the past would have produced self destructive reactions. How both of us wanted to be better for each other. We took habitual reactions and replaced them with much more loving responses. For us, our relationship was worth the effort. We leaned towards one another. When one felt weak the other gathered strength enough to support us both. We stayed loving, even when we didn’t feel worthy of love. We did this by being honest. We welcomed transp ..read more