I was leaving a marketing job when I started Renew and Heart Hackers. Once I’d made the decision that I was going to build the tools that I wished I had when I went through a life-changing breakup, I decided to focus on that… and only that… building and teaching. But I also need to make sure that if I was going to throw myself into this full-time, I’d need to make sure I could support myself. Source ..read more

I grew up in Vancouver–a city known for its dreary winter weather, but it wasn’t until recently that I made the connection between my sad moods in the winter and Seasonal Affective Disorder. As the seasons change, bringing shorter days and colder nights, many of us can find ourselves feeling a little down. It’s more than just a dislike for winter’s chill or a longing for summer’s warmth… Source ..read more

I thought I had this grief thing mastered. I’ve helped people with their heartbreak for almost a decade. I’ve rewired my patterns. I know the tools. I’m even in a healthy relationship. I thought I was all good. But I’ve been dealing with a different type of heartache. My father has been very ill. The deterioration is happening rapidly. I’ve never gone through this kind of grief. If you’ve followed... Source ..read more

Can you Spot a Cheater? Apparently, there are 5 types of cheaters and very specific reasons why they stray. But first, let’s dig into a recent celebrity cheating scandal. A match made in Victoria’s Secret heaven? It seemed like Behati tamed the rockstar Adam Levine, who had once joked “I’ll never get married” during an interview on The Tonight Show.  On the outside, it seemed like a picture-perfect marriage. They had three children, Adam would gush about his love for her: “She makes me the best person I can be.” Who would have guessed years later the Mar ..read more

In an interesting paradox, heterosexual single men have been lonelier than ever whereas heterosexual single women are happier than their male counterparts. Women aren’t settling anymore. Psychologist Greg Matos caused a social media uproar in last month when he published an article on the rise of single, lonely men and a big contributing factor is the higher dating standards of women. Some findings in Dr. Matos shares: Dating opportunities for heterosexual men are diminishing as relationship standards rise. Younger and middle-aged men are the loneliest they’ve been in generations  Whi ..read more

Think about this for a moment: What if, when it comes to dating, what you don’t do matters more than anything else? Let’s say you want to get into shape and adopt a healthier lifestyle. To achieve this you not only need to workout regularly (To-do List), you also need to cut junk food off your diet (Not-to-do List). Now apply the same principle to dating.  To find your ideal partner you need to not only have clarity on what you are looking for in a relationship (To-Do List)  but also cut off toxic patterns that are stopping you from finding real love (Not-To-Do List). Here are three ..read more

I unlocked the secret codes of life, connected to my partner’s soul, and jumped dimensions alongside a teenage mutant ninja turtle, all in 57 minutes. It sounds like a scene from an incoherent sci-fi movie, but no, it was what I experienced during my first time trying ketamine therapy. And it might have just shifted my life. The journey before the journey First, let me provide some context on why I would get ketamine administered through an IV drip in the first place. I’m no stranger to psychedelics, and I’ve had profound experiences using psilocybin in guided sound ceremonies in the past. I p ..read more

It was straight out of a fairy tale. Flowers. Fancy dinners. Proclamations of how special our connection was. I was on cloud nine. Sold. I’m in. All in. Until the messages were less frequent. Then the effort to make plans started to wane. I found myself crawling out of my skin, waiting with bated breath for him to return my texts, see me, show me that he still cared. I started replaying our interactions if I did something wrong. Maybe I showed too much interest? Maybe I texted too much? Was it my outfit from the last date? It must be me. After two weeks of feeling completely anxious, I decided ..read more

There are a few questions I get asked repeatedly when it comes to dating and timing. I thought it’d be helpful to share some of these questions and answers. When am I ready to start dating again (after a breakup/divorce)? If you’re waiting for the moment where you wake up and suddenly feel 100% ready to date, the reality is, that day is not coming.  You can still miss your ex, and a part of you might still feel sad about what happened. That doesn’t mean your heart is closed for business. There is no perfect timeline where the emotions from one relationship end in one neat and ti ..read more

During the pandemic, I moved from NYC to my hometown of Vancouver, Canada. I was eager to reconnect with my old community of friends once restrictions lifted. I’d coordinate dinners, host people in my home, and was the one who’d initiate plans. For a while, I shrugged, Oh, they’re busy. They have kids so it’s too hard for them to initiate. Or <insert excuse here>. But I realized, even though they were not showing up in the relationship – I was holding on to the friendships because of history. This would leave me resentful and disappointed. I’ve learned that hi ..read more