Building a House of Repair"
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
2w ago
Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth.  00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings 00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection 01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress 03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learning 06:27 Practical Tips for Building a House of Repair 07:34 Final Thoughts and Weekly Challenge --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-sm ..read more
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205. How To Deal With A Defensive Partner
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
1M ago
Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships .00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness 00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake 02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness and Conflict 03:01 Strategies for Managing Defensiveness and Conflict 05:33 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care During Conflict1 4:48 Conclusion and Invitation for Further Support ..read more
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204. The Power Within
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
1M ago
This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth 01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority 02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships 04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Authority 06:23 Conclusion and Reflections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-smith0/message ..read more
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202. Hidden Dreams
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
1M ago
Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with these hidden dreams for resolving conflicts. The episode emphasizes the significance of thoughtful questioning in revealing underlying aspirations and acknowledges that, although not ..read more
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201. Manage Conflict: Find Common Ground"
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
1M ago
In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair way that respects everyone's views. She shares a personal story about resolving a conflict. The fifth step is about dealing with the deeper reasons behind conflicts. Becky wraps up by summarizing the steps a ..read more
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200. Repair Attempts in Conflict
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
1M ago
In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statements, staying polite, and employing the Gottman repair checklist are discussed. The podcast also addresses the challenge of practicing these methods, especially for individuals pron ..read more
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200. Manage Conflict: Find Common Ground"
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
2M ago
In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair way that respects everyone's views. She shares a personal story about resolving a conflict. The fifth step is about dealing with the deeper reasons behind conflicts. Becky wraps up by summarizing the steps a ..read more
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199. Repair Attempts in Conflict
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
2M ago
In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statements, staying polite, and employing the Gottman repair checklist are discussed. The podcast also addresses the challenge of practicing these methods, especially for individuals pron ..read more
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198. Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
3M ago
Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despite the challenges, the effort made to enhance conflict resolution is valuable, aiming to strengthen relationships. Becky encourages listeners to engage with the series to learn about fostering healthy conflict and better disagreement practices in mar ..read more
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197. Breaking Free from Emotional Overload
Happy With Yourself Podcast
by Becky Smith
3M ago
In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses the importance of awareness of this emotional over-responsibility and offers advice on tolerating discomfort associated with others' feelings. Some recommended thoughts to help maintain emotional separation include acknowledging that other people's em ..read more
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