Sorry, this will be long and not wildly dramatic, but my mind is going crazy and I need some outside perspective. So I always had a very naive and blind faith in my wife’s fidelity. Honestly, it never entered my mind that she even noticed other men or would ever even think about someone else. Foolish, ignorant, and naive, I now realize - not because of what she’s done (or not done) but just because, duh, of course she’s human and so is everyone else, she’s attractive and friendly, and attractions happen. I’ve literally been kicking my ass for a few months now over realizing just how stupid I ..read more

Hello all...my husband has met someone new and is pushing me pretty hard to finalize a divorce. He wants me to move out of our apartment, and he wants to set up a custody schedule for our daughter (2 years old) ASAP. We are still able to communicate about practical things (like me moving out, or setting up a custody schedule) but this all feels pretty scary for me, especially considering that I recently found out about the fact that he is seeing someone else. I have tried to reassure him that I want to be the best wife that I can and that I want to be as responsive as I can, but I think that ..read more

Hi! So I posted about this yesterday but accidentally was very unclear in the way that I wrote it so I removed it before it got engagement. let's try this again.. So I have been very sick with bronchitis, the sickest I have been in years. It happened to fall on my husband's days off so he said he would help me. The first day, he helped alot even though we had little responsibilities that day. I did have to remind him of most of his responsibilities. He has ADHD, as do I. He is medicated, I am not per my DR right now. He has some serious intellectual issues, though. The second day is where we ..read more

I'm at my wit's end - it's killing my mental health and leaving me incredibly exhausted. Please help me understand if there's something I should be doing to fix things, or if I am clearly past the point of no return (or anywhere in between). Some context: My (38M) wife (38F) and I have together since 2005. We met our first year in college and dated and lived together until we finally got married in 2015. Since then we've had two kids. We bought a house in 2020 just after our youngest was born. We had our ups and downs over the years, like any couple does, but things were rough since after our ..read more

About 6 months ago, I discovered my husband has been getting dirty massages regularly . He promised not to do it again but I caught him again 2 months later. for those unclear- dirty massages are those where the girls give them happy endings after a brief massage. He admitted to doing it even before we met each other. he says very committed to stop for fear of losing our family but the fact he's done it for so long means i;m not confident of his ability to stop. Context - we have been together 20 years and married for 12. We have 2 young kids and he’s otherwise a great father and husband most ..read more

So last Sunday my wife (25) came home and told me m32 she wants a divorce. She has many reasons to justify wanting to. i spent the first 3 days in shock and I've spent the past 4 days reflecting on the things I've done wrong. I know she wants her space and I'm trying to give it to her. Is there anything I can do to try and win her love back? I know she needs her space for now and I don't wanna push her away more. I want to try and work through this. She's unwilling to right now. How so can I show her it can be diffrent? how do i show her I can be the man she fell in love with? I'm really just ..read more

Today I found a flirtatious message in my husbands phone. I had to use his as mine just broke the day before and the new one is on the way. I'm not the type to go through his phone- only once in the beginning to establish his character. [Before marriage, been together a long time now]. She says she has been thinking about him and missing him, then there is a deleted text. Then she asks if he is still married bc she doesn't want to cause any problems- he gives no response. That was it the jest of the convo and the furthest it went. Let me say this, I know for a fact he is a faithful man but I ..read more

Me (40m) and my wife (42f) are coming up on 12 years of marriage. Ups and downs. We popped out three babies pretty quick, two of them have autism and one of those 2 is severe. It's a hectic life. I have struggled for years to try and make her happy, figure her out. I have initiated every conversation about issues, then usually regret it because she responds poorly even if I am careful to frame things supportively. She does not like to talk about us. Says it's physically painful. She will literally sit quietly while I talk and then respond with "I don't know what to say." Again, she has never ..read more

Hello, guys . I’m a 37 year male married to my wife who is 25. We have been married for almost 1.5 years and together a grand total of 3.5 years . We met at the height of the COVID pandemic in late 2020 when I was 34 and she was about to turn 22. She is a wonderful woman and very attractive, very sexy woman to me . We’ve gotten along very well from the beginning and still do . We’ve always been extremely sexually active with most weeks 3-4 times a week every single week and sometimes 5-8 times in a week (less often ). I am a lover of sensual pleasures , comfort , good wine , good food, etc ..read more

Need advice… I [39m] have been married to my wife [40f] for 16 years. We have a good family life (3 happy kids) and have gotten along for the most part. But over the last couple of years, things have been pretty crappy. My biggest complaints aren’t just the lack of sex (which I will touch on), but the meanness and disregard for my happiness that my wife has been exhibiting lately…and it mostly started after her dad passed away. I have a long back story here, and I think it helps me unwind and get some of the frustrations off my back…so I apologize in advance. The first complaint…the sex stuff ..read more