In the past we've talked about feeling competitive with a meta especially when playing the "compare" game. But in this weeks episode we take it from a different angle! Have you ever felt in competition with your PARTNER? Maybe it's who earns more money or who has more partners but sometimes it happens. We discuss some ways to recognize it and tips to process it and move through. Oh and you don't want to miss this explanation of what an actual "competitive relationship" is according to lgbtawiki.org in Monsuta's intro! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please help us help others by hitting that "fol ..read more

Monsuta takes the reigns and flies solo for this week's discussion. This week is answering questions from the TYPO phone, from first dates to breakups.  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review on whatever platform you listen on. It really helps new listeners find us. If you want some more of Bella and Monsuta head over to our Patreon page for bonus episodes and to join our Polyam Fam Facebook group! And of course you can reach out to us all over social media! For additional episodes an ..read more

We will be off this week. Taking a vacation this week. Sorry and thank you! Love you ..read more

Being at a place today where our relationship is stable and healthy and we feel pretty confident in our relationship skills its easy to forget some of the struggles and difficult feelings that came up in the early days. The anxiety around dating a new person when you already have a partner. Or the fear around sex with someone new. So many speed bumps to maneuver when you are first moving from monogamy to polyamory and today we talk about and share some of our experiences getting over those speed bumps.   ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please help us help others by hitting that "follo ..read more

Today we have a question from an anonymous TYPO Phone caller which we felt could be a whole episode on its own. What's the first thing that comes to mind when someone mentions they're a swinger? It's often times some 60s or 70s house key party. And while we love a good house party... this doesn't quite capture the full essence of swinging. We want to help discuss swinging in a way to bring some enlightenment around today's question, which is a perfect example of someone trying to break out of the comfort zone society created.  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Please help us help others by ..read more

Many of us grew up being told and believing that in order for things to be "fair" they needed to be equal. For those who are perhaps a little younger this reminds me of those participation trophies. However, as we've grown up, we've realized that not everyone needs the same things in life. While one person might need the validation of a participation trophy another person may need to be challenged and earn their 1st place ribbon. It's all based on individual circumstances. That's how equity in relationships works! One partner wont have the same needs, wants, or desires so dishing it out the sa ..read more

Building an intimate relationship often needs all parties involved to show some level of intimacy. To open up and let others in is being vulnerable but in order to do that there needs to be things like trust and acceptance which happen to be key factors in building intimacy. So in this episode we visit how vulnerability and intimacy go hand in hand and how they impacted our weekend trip away to Bend, Oregon. For more information on intimacy here are a few places to start: 8 Books on Sex and Intimacy, recommended by sex educator Dawn Serra. This list includes inclusive, empowering titles such ..read more

Back to the TYPO Phone! This week we have some questions ranging from why so many people struggle with kitchen table poly, a question around a partner breaking their "rules", one about pet names for partners and we have a great discussion on all things in between. No matter where you are starting on your polyamory journey we all have questions, big or small someone has probably been there before and struggled with the same thing. We want to make sure you know you aren't alone. Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button and leaving us a 5 star rating and review o ..read more

Have you ever been hanging out for a game night with a group of friends and the question comes up..."so you have a girlfriend AND a boyfriend, how does that work?" Or maybe it's the holiday season and you want to discuss bringing multiple partners over to meet the family. Or maybe it's even a stranger in the park watching an ethical triad raise and parent a child together and they come over to ask some questions. How do you handle the questions? How do you talk about polyamory with outsiders? Join us for that exact conversation in todays episode! Please help us help others by hitting that "fo ..read more

Thinking back over the years there have been many times where a new meta is entering the picture and all those insecurities pop up which then creates this "perfect" image in our head of who our meta is. "Oh they have a better job than I do so they must be better." "They are skinnier than I am therefore a better partner.". These thoughts of ours cause us to often times be intimidated by a new meta. Sometimes we are the intimidating one and don't even realize it. In todays episode we will talk about all of that and more! Please help us help others by hitting that "follow" or "subscribe" button ..read more