Do you often wonder how you’ll know the difference between a truth and a lie? It is a common question after infidelity, since the very nature of infidelity includes deceit. In this episode, I share a powerful analogy that will help you discern for yourself between truth and error. You will come away from this episode wiser, more in tune with your own truth, and with a higher commitment to seeking truth, at all cost. Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program at:   https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andrea ..read more

In this lost and found episode, I share a story of recently losing my child in Disneyland and some profound lessons that came from that. I came away from that experience recognizing clearer than ever that we are not meant to do life alone, especially the hard part. In an intense situation, helpers came. Kindness was shown. I want this for you, too, as you navigate feeling lost in infidelity. Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program at:   https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infi ..read more

Are there things in your life you want to change? Do you want your spouse to change? In this episode, you will learn the fast-track to how to really, deeply, fundamentally change. Instead of just believing that you can’t change or that you are simply a failure in aspects of your life, you’ll understand why change has not “stuck” in the past, and how to move forward in becoming who you want to be. You’ll also learn how to see if someone else is just going through the motions, or deeply changing. Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program at:   https://andreagiles.com/kno ..read more

There is a lot of discussion about infidelity, but what about fidelity? What does it even look like to live in a high fidelity marriage? In this episode you will learn about five elements that have to be present to have a high fidelity marriage. Even if you have already experienced infidelity, fidelity can be learned. It can become your new reality, and it begins with becoming 100% faithful to yourself.  Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program at:   https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/ To learn more from me, be sure to join my email list at: https://andreagiles.c ..read more

One of the main questions we have after experiencing infidelity is, “How do I know it won’t happen again?” In this episode, I teach about risk as being inherent in relationships and how to avoid taking risks with an unlikely return on investment. You’ll learn what questions to ask yourself to gauge just how much risk you are taking, and when it is wise to go all in. Risk IS inherent in any relationship, but in this episode you will learn how to be wiser about it. Want to work with me? Apply to join my group coaching program here. To learn more from me, be sure to be on my email list here. Plea ..read more

This episode is all about why we excuse bad behavior. Whether it be from our kids, spouse, co-workers, boss, etc., there are reasons we allow people to treat us the way they do. When you know what to look for and how to deal with the discomfort of teaching people how to treat you, life gets a whole lot easier. Most of us are conflict-averse and put up with behaviors that aren’t helping anybody. You can learn how to lovingly hold people accountable while growing your own self-respect. To learn more from me, be sure to be on my email list at: https://andreagiles.com/lies-about-infidelity/ Get on ..read more

2022 was one for the books for me personally. I started the year with a new baby, launched a new program, and grew in ways I didn’t know I needed. In this episode, I share my biggest lesson from the year: one that, when practiced, can bring relief and peace even in the midst of uncertainty and discomfort. The lesson is around the concept of duality: The ability to hold onto two opposing views at the same time. Don’t miss this episode if you want help navigating the things that don’t make sense or don’t have an easy answer. To learn more from me, be sure to be on my email list at: https://andre ..read more

In a world that praises extreme independence, many of us don’t know how to help each other calm our nervous systems. We may even think it is co-dependence to try to help each other in this way. In this week’s episode, we will take a deep dive into what it actually means to co-regulate, and how it can bring deep healing. We will also take a look at how our parents help us to learn how to settle ourselves down by first regulating with us. You’ll understand what healthy co-regulation means as opposed to co-dysregulation.  Don’t miss this episode- first to understand your own patterns better ..read more

In my years of coaching, one thing I have heard too many times to count is, “I don’t like conflict.” My clients use this as a reason to not take bold action, not speak the things that need to be said, and ultimately to hide from discomfort. In this episode, I cover conflict with a new lens; one that helps my clients lose their fear about stepping into conflict with the intention of getting to the other side with problems solved.   Listen to this episode to see where you are hiding from conflict, and to learn how to face it head on. To learn more from me, be sure to be on my email list at ..read more

For many people, D-day, or discovery day (the day they found out about their spouse’s infidelity) is a heavy, traumatic day. When they have the anniversary of that day coming up, it can fill them with dread. In this episode, I’ll be sharing ways to think about discovery day that can bring relief, and even hope. It does not have to be an awful day. It can be a day with some emotion as you remember what happened, but it can be many other things as well. Listen to this week’s episode to learn how to think about this (and other) potentially hard days in ways that help you move forward. To learn mo ..read more