Charisma—we all want it, but what exactly is it? And if we don’t have it naturally, are we just screwed? There’s a pervasive myth about charisma that you either have it or you don’t, and if you don’t have it, you can’t be taught, but we think that’s bullshit. Sure, some people are naturally charismatic, but you can definitely develop your own charisma, and it starts by understanding everything that makes someone charismatic. Once you know the areas you might need some work on, it’s easy to get tactical and work on feeling more likable. What is charisma? [1:16] Someone with power can impact ot ..read more

We’re in need of online etiquette coaching, and quickly. We grew up being taught that if you can’t saying anything nice then you shouldn’t say anything at all, but that doesn’t seem to fly on the internet anymore. Our name for it is drive-by trolling: some stranger rolls into your comment section, says something so incredibly rude (that they’d never say to your face), and then gets mad if you try to defend yourself. And of course, they face no consequences for their asshole behavior. We’re sure it’s just a way for them to feel significant or important in some way, but we’re sick of being kicke ..read more

You get to choose your partner, but with them comes their family, and you certainly don’t get to choose your in-laws. So what do you do when there’s tensions between you and those in-laws and your partner doesn’t stick up for you? Family is family, so you can’t force your partner to choose between you and them, but there are ways to feel heard and at the very least, protect your peace.  To side with your parents or your spouse [1:49] Both sides need to make concessions [3:49] Your partner should never isolate you from your family [8:40] It doesn’t have to be a choice [9:42] You have to c ..read more

We may have worked through our dieting obsessions and pushing our bodies to extremes, but that doesn’t mean everyone else has. Every now and then we see another person, stuck in the same cycle of food and body obsession that we were on in our younger years, and we can’t help but feel sad for them. Everyone has the right to the full life experience they desire, but seeing someone trapped in a mindset that hurt us for so long is difficult to watch. That’s why it’s so important to stay mindful of the ways we think of and talk about ourselves—after years, we’ve made peace with our bodies, and we’d ..read more

Before 2020, Kathleen Norton couldn’t imagine anything other than her corporate job, but after healing her inner child, doing deep shadow work, and really committing to her own energetic output, she built the Miss Excel brand and now has almost 2 million followers across TikTok and Instagram. Now, Kat is turning her sights towards helping people just like her into becoming the happiest, most productive version of themselves. All of your wildest dreams are possible, the only thing holding you back is your own mindset. Kat’s here to help you optimize it. Blowing up on TikTok + building the Miss ..read more

We’ve all heard some 20-year-old trainer say that “age is just a number” when it comes to our training, but the truth is that fitness in our 40’s and beyond is different than what we used to do! Our bodies, hormones, and metabolisms are changing and that means we have to change our workout methods if we want to stay healthy and fit as we age. We know just how important it is to put on muscle, so today we’re chatting with Rachel Cosgrove about her new book, Age Strong, and why talking about women’s fitness after 40 matters so much. We want to look and feel good for as long as we can, and it sta ..read more

Is it just us, or is the internet boring as fuck lately? And yet even though we’re bored to tears, we can’t stop cycling through the same apps over and over again. We’re addicted to it and yet we’re just so bored. Everyone posts the same content over and over, where the only point is to get attention and make people angry, rather than doing anything interesting. It could just be that we’re just pessimists, but it feels like the algorithm has rotted our brains. It might be time to start some social-media detoxes, and while we’re at it, maybe start reading again? How can you be sick of somethin ..read more

There’s so much chatter about “authenticity” and “just being yourself” online these days that it’s kinda starting to lose meaning. Of course you should be yourself online, but often people mistake being “authentic” with being vulnerable. Some people like to share everything about themselves with their followers, some people don’t! We’ve also seen a lot of people conflate being authentic with just being an asshole. At the end of the day, it’s important to stay true to who YOU are in every moment, and what YOU want to share, rather than what some rando on the internet tells you is “real” authent ..read more

Maybe you’ve heard already, but prominent podcaster Andrew Huberman, was recently exposed for having relationships with 6 different women at once. And while there’s nothing technically “illegal” about what he’s done, it’s a really shitty move done by someone who claims to have high integrity, and it rubs us the wrong way. We’re not big believers in the concept that how you do one thing is how you do everything, but how are we supposed to respect a man that has shown he doesn’t really respect the women in his life? No one is perfect, but when you’re a public figure, the way you act has a big im ..read more

We’re not at young as we once were, and as much as we hate to admit it, our bodies are changing. That means making peace with the fact that the way we once worked out no longer works for us, and figuring out new ways to stay fit. It’s hard af to let go of the ways things used to be, but staying the same forever can do more harm than good. Nowadays we prioritize managing our physical + emotional stress, putting on muscle, and letting the small things add up. Just because working out looks different now doesn’t mean what we’re doing is worse. Adjusting your workouts as you age [1:44] Keeping yo ..read more