How can you date with social anxiety? This week Lily gives us all a much-needed pep talk and lays out a roadmap for dealing with social anxiety while trying to find love. From her own experiences, she drops some wisdom on showing yourself self-compassion and bouncing back stronger, all to create a dating life full of joy! ✨ You’ll learn: Go S.O.F.T. Practice self-compassion, own your needs, feel your feelings, thoughts not facts.  “Messy progress forward is okay.” “Feelings your emotions is reparenting yourself.” The goal is never to feel anxious again; it’s to increase yo ..read more

  Is it possible to attract proactive, loving partners? Yes! Mishi joins Lily to share her story of how she went from attracting completely emotionally unavailable men to attracting the most proactive partner. They dive into Mishi’s journey - it's total empowerment vibes! From dealing with consecutive breakups to finding self-trust with the help of personal reflection and the Brazen Breakthrough program, Mishi's story is a roadmap to living your best life. They get into the nitty-gritty of self-growth and that ah-mazing moment when you start trusting your gut to attract the kind of conne ..read more

  In this episode, we dive deep into the empowering world of Essence-Based Preferences (EBPs). EBPs aren't just preferences but a revolutionary act of self-ownership and empowerment. It's all about embracing what you want without any apologies or self-judgment. This episode is about defining your desires and creating a bold action plan that aligns with your deepest desires. Join us as we revolutionize the dating game and empower ourselves to attract nothing but the best. Let's do this! ? You’ll learn: Let's get one thing straight - it's your absolute right to choose who you want to be ..read more

  Ever wondered how to bounce back after a significant breakup? This week, Danielle, one of our Brazen Breakthrough clients, opens up about her journey through healing and self-discovery. She reflects on her past relationships and how she redefined her intentions and boundaries to rediscover herself. This episode is a testament to self-compassion, offering dating insights and profound thoughts on personal growth and finding joy. We get into: How Danielle realized she wasn’t getting what she truly wanted in dating  Breaking patterns of complacency and shrinking away from what you ..read more

  Did you know you’re most attractive when you are authentically you? Well, that’s precisely what this week’s guest, Therapy Jeff, says! Jeff Guenther, known as Therapy Jeff, joins Lily for a conversation about the intricacies of modern dating, the evolution of therapy in the age of social media, and authentic self-expression.  Therapy Jeff's insights on modern dating and mental health are a breath of fresh air. In a world saturated with dating advice and unrealistic expectations, his book, 'Big Dating Energy,' offers a refreshing perspective: that lasting love stems from embracing ..read more

  Nervous about sending a DM to a cutie or asking somebody on a date? If you answered yes, then this week’s episode is for you.   Lily explores the mindset shifts and practical steps needed to step out of your comfort zone and shoot your shot! Whether sliding into those DMs or asking someone out face-to-face, this episode is your guide to overcoming the nerves and getting what you want.  Grab your pen and paper, and get ready to take notes. By the end of this episode, you'll be ready to revolutionize your approach to dating. Asking for more of what you want leads to more of wha ..read more

  We're diving into the intersection of body liberation, white supremacy, and dating with the incredible Jessica Wilson, MS. RD. As the author of "It's Always Been Ours: Rewriting the Story of Black Women's Bodies," Jessica brings her expertise as a dietitian, storyteller, and community organizer to the forefront. Together, Lily and Jessica explore the interplay between shrinking our bodies in response to white supremacy and shrinking our desires, unpacking how Black and Brown women can reclaim their body liberation and prioritize care in the dating world. We get into: The interplay be ..read more

  Trigger warning: This episode contains mentions of suicide. You are worthy. If you need more convincing, this week’s episode is not to miss. Tara Schuster, author of Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way, joins Lily on the show! In the book and throughout this conversation, Tara shares practical steps to liberate yourself from emotional suffering, heal your past, and own your future. Tara served as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of critically acclaimed shows ..read more

  Are you tired of swiping left and right, endlessly scrolling through dating apps, hoping to find a genuine connection? In this episode, Lily welcomes Maxine Simone Williams, the creative powerhouse behind a New York City-based initiative, We Met IRL, reshaping how people meet and mingle, diving deep into the world of speed dating and real-life encounters. Maxine shares her journey of building We Met IRL and why her speed dating events make dating fun again. Plus, Lily and Maxine tackle common dating concerns like handling rejection at speed dating events or overcoming social barriers f ..read more

  Are you striving to let go of the wrong people? What if we told you that the extent to which you're willing to bless and release the wrong people is directly linked to your path toward the right relationship? In this episode, Lily reveals her strategy for blessing and releasing the wrong people in your life, enabling your mind to shift its focus towards the right connections for you. "Blessing and releasing" is a radical step towards fulfilling your desires. So, grab your note-taking tools because this episode is full of practical how-to's on this transformative process. In this episod ..read more