While navigating divorce, fear of the unknown often drives us to replace our uncertainty with a catastrophic worst case scenario about our future. However, our greatest fears rarely come true.  Today’s session is designed to provide you with hope and encouragement as you hear one woman’s journey from fear and overwhelm to a post divorce life that is very different from what she feared.   Tune in as she shares the struggles she faced with her narcissistic ex, and how while he never changed, she changed so much that she rarely feels anxiety around interactions with him.  Elle shar ..read more

The psychological impact of living with a HCP crushes your self esteem often leaving you, the spouse insecure, reactive and bitter.  Dr. Gayle Reed shares how forgiveness is a healing balm for the spouse of the HCP.  She explains the traumatic impact of verbal and emotional abuse and the psychological defenses you use to manage the resulting anger, pain and confusion.     While forgiveness seems to be for the HCP, it is actually for you, the spouse. Forgiveness is not condoning, accepting, excusing or denying the abuse.  Gayle takes us through a 4 phase process th ..read more

Today’s episode is dedicated to your healing journey. Those of us who marry HCPs have our part in the dysfunction as we discussed in episode 2 -  Divorcing A Narcissist: The Personality Disorders and Dysfunctional Dance of High Conflict Marriages.    We are excited to have Ross Rosenberg with us again today to share deeply effective strategies for healing from codependency, a self love deficiency disorder.  Ross speaks passionately about how vital it is to heal trauma from childhood to gain the self love that was ‘robbed’ from your childhood.     As the spous ..read more

As we began discussing in our last episode, communicating with a high conflict personality (HCP) is often frustrating and fruitless, and leaves us feeling angry, exhausted and unheard.   Today’s episode offers a unique and powerful approach to communicating with a narcissist that enables you to protect your interests without conflict or drama! This strategy neutralizes combative and emotionally charged power struggles and inspires the narcissist to cooperate. (Get ready to take notes!)   Special guest Lindsey Ellison, is the author of Magic Words, a relationship coach and founder of ..read more

Today’s powerful episode gives you the strategies and tools needed to communicate more effectively with your spouse’s high conflict personality.  You have been struggling with criticism, deflection, blaming and black and white thinking.  You have doubted your own version of reality, lost your self esteem and tried time and again to reason with your spouse to no end.  What you didn’t know was that communicating with a HCP requires a very different approach.   HCPs do not respond to logic.  Their brains are wired differently which is why your reasoning was fuel to the fi ..read more

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you o ..read more

You kids have been experiencing conflict throughout the marriage, even if you think you have ‘hidden’ it from them.  Now that a decision has been made to divorce, tensions will only rise. It is all the more important to focus on protecting your children now while navigating a high conflict divorce.     Deciding when, how and what to tell the kids about the divorce is just the beginning.  Figuring out how to parent in the ‘in between’ while still living together is another sensitive topic that needs to be handled carefully.  Then there is the possibility that you o ..read more

Entering the legal process of any divorce feels frightening and overwhelming.  For those entering high conflict divorce, the fear and confusion is escalated due to years of living in a dysfunctional marriage and the complexities involved when divorcing a high conflict personality.   There is often a greater need to be in the court system due to the power imbalance in the relationship, the lack of transparency of one spouse, and the intimidation and bullying that repeatedly derails negotiations.  For the high conflict divorce, it can be enormously valuable to take advantage ..read more

Living with a narcissist is ‘crazy making’.  Understanding your role in the ongoing insanity is vital in order to create lasting change. In order to navigate your divorce effectively and strategically and emerge confident and renewed, it is essential that you keep your focus on that which you have power over...your thoughts, feelings and behavior. Today’s episode invites you into a ‘coaching experience’ where we validate your reality of fear and uncertainty, of your self esteem and confidence having been chiseled away in your dysfunctional marriage.  Tune in to access powerful strate ..read more

COVID-19 is impacting our lives in many ways. For many of our listeners, this virus is affecting their plans to divorce, or how they might be dealing with a past divorce. Topics in the program include: Filing for divorce during our current Covid-19 situation How to deal with visitation during these times Financial implications of divorce at the current time Could current spousal support orders be modified if your ex's income changes due to loos of work And more Join Steve Peck and attorney, Henry Gornbein for answers to these and other questions regarding the legal side of divorce during the ..read more