Sometimes things happen, and we get shame-triggered. This week, when something happened, we realized almost immediately that it was an attempt to exile us from community and that we were feeling shame and where it originally came from. We were able to work on it and heal it. We share a post-mortem of that exploration and journey as an example of memory reconsolidation. We wrote & recorded that section of this post on Monday (May 22, 2023) & Tuesday (May 23, 2023), respectively. Saturday — we're positive this bit of healing really took. We're good on this issue. It's been put to bed. St ..read more

Onboarding is what we call helping stuck residents become more present in the Here & Now, and work on coconsciousness. What does it generally take to help system members who are stuck in PTSD loops or trapped in the There & Then to get free, or become more present in the Here & Now? We give a little history for how we figured it out, and an overview and big picture of the process we use in the United Front Boot Camp and the book United Front: Recruits, with hints on how you can work on freeing your lost headmates. Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate wh ..read more

Onboarding is what we call helping stuck residents become more present in the Here & Now, and work on coconsciousness. What does it generally take to help system members who are stuck in PTSD loops or trapped in the There & Then to get free, or become more present in the Here & Now? We give a little history for how we figured it out, and an overview and big picture of the process we use in the United Front Boot Camp and the book United Front: Recruits, with hints on how you can work on freeing your lost headmates. Trigger warning: As always, these episodes may not be appropriate wh ..read more

Everyone needs an anchor or a base for exploring life. Some get it from family or friends, and if something shakes it, it can be devastating. Join us for an episode exploring how to have a reliable way to depend on your own internal system for structure, support, and safety so that you limit your reliance on externals for your deepest and most dependent needs. Content Warning: our young folk front, discussing the topic, and we dissociate through a large portion of the episode. We do not consider this content to be appropriate for young folk to listen to and work on. There are mentions of how e ..read more

Boundaries and Empathy (011) Important concept for our System Trust Issues series. Do other people's emotions overshadow your own? Do you have a hard time protecting yourself from emotional outbursts? Do you know where you end and other people begin? More on what is separate, and what ought to be. When the world pushes up against us, it can penetrate our defenses and leave us defenseless, or with unmanageable boundaries and leaks inside and out. What are boundaries? How do boundaries relate to empathy and what do we need to fix them? This is part of a series of podcasts leading up to a capston ..read more

We happily interrupt our regular podcast to say it's DID Awareness Day! And as such, we're giving you all a special episode — the January 13th recording of our lecture Beyond the Movies: Debunking myths about DID & plural systems. This is long. Just over 1 hour and 20 minutes. You may have heard it before. Feel free to skip it if you don't need it! The original recording is available for download, there's a script/transcript, and a call-in playback phone number which are all here: https://liberatedlifecoaching.com/Events/20190113-BeyondTheMovies-DebunkingMythsDIDPluralSystems Please spread ..read more

A discussion of how important names and re-naming can be for individuals, both external and within a plural system. Names have power, and what we name our headmates can create harmony or friction within the plural system. Buck of Crisses takes us through several types of hurt we can commit from mis-naming, labeling, and dead-naming. Trigger warning: If you have a problem with a certain nickname of `Richard`, this episode may bother you. As always, these episodes may not be appropriate while driving. Please mind your triggers, and put our podcasts on broadcast in your internal landscape so anyo ..read more

United Front: Serenity Two Ways (021) A daily exercise in serenity; one of the many ways to be more present and less dissociated. The opposite of dissociation is presence. Presence is not just one thing going on, it's a collection of subtle arts including being mindful, anchored in the Here & Now, calm or serene, and being aware of one's surroundings. It was during a daily course in self-improvement that we discovered the passage "Serenity" from James Allen's As a Man Thinketh (1903), made a personal recording of it, and for a period of time we listened to it daily. Between the words and o ..read more

United Front: Please Wipe Your Feet Before You Come In (019) Starting with and expanding on the United Front Boot Camp post of the same name: leaving your baggage and triggers outside of your meetings and greetings to form internal community. When you're starting your internal community, it's best to be on your best behavior with one another and leave your mess outside the meeting room. We go into our "As inside, so outside (and vice versa)" metaphor of treating your system like any household, and wiping the slate and starting over again as new acquaintances in your internal "home". Trigger wa ..read more

Trigger Topics: Coffee and Deprogramming Triggers (016) Recording on trigger deprogramming and managing triggers from 2011 when we were triggered by the smell of coffee. Even once you have managed to work on most of your triggers, new ones can come up, ones you didn't expect or new aspects of old triggers. Here's a recording of when we were triggered in May 2011 and some of the ideas we've used to manage and work on triggers. Trigger warning: This discusses an active trigger, having switched between a protector or persecutor and a little, and is recorded by Hart, who is working on managing the ..read more