How to Look Taller on Dating Apps Dating apps are pretty brutal. The competition is fierce and if you’re a heterosexual man, it can be especially difficult. Unsurprisingly, height is the most common lie straight men tell on their profile.  In fact, a survey by the clothing brand Ash and Eerie showed that 80% of their shoppers lie about their height on dating apps. There’s a multitude of research on the topic from academic studies to GQ articles. While the exact percentage varies, it’s so well established that it’s become a meme. Should You Lie About Your Height on Dating Apps? Here’s th ..read more

The Beard Dilemma  To beard or not to beard: that is the question.  Fortunately, I just so happen to have the answer and a bunch of data to back it up. If you’ve been wondering if your prospective partner would prefer you with or without facial hair, you’re not alone. It’s one of the most commonly asked questions I receive as a dating consultant. In fact, I found several studies regarding facial hair and attraction from a simple search on Google Scholar, which means that it’s been a source of curiosity for quite some time. Let’s get into it! Warning Label The contents of this blog ..read more

What is Cuffing Season Have you ever sat in a sea of blankets while eating a toasted bagel with blueberry cream cheese in upstate NY, right smack dab in the middle of November when the temperature is somewhere around 40°F, and right as you’re reaching for the remote to turn on Netflix, BOOM you’re overwhelmed by a wave of loneliness? Well, friend, that was your serotonin dropping to the lowest level of the year, and it'll stay like that until mid February. Simply put, cuffing season takes place from mid October through the end of February. During this time, lots of singles are scrambling to p ..read more

I’m about to voice a very unpopular opinion: ghosting on dating apps is often unintentional, unmalicious, and unworthy of the hate it receives. It can also be reduced with a bit of strategy.  Before you come at me with pitchforks, give me a minute to make a few clarifications.   This blog focuses on ghosting: On dating apps During the early stages of conversation Before plans to meet up have been established This blog is not referencing ghosting: Once plans have been established After a date During a relationship I’ll write a blog later about ghosting in relationshi ..read more

You know that feeling of introspective stillness that happens when you’re able to look at a traumatic event with a bit of distance and clarity? I woke up this morning feeling ready to talk, so let’s talk.  Dating Consultants are People Too Being a dating consultant is weird, because I have this unreasonable expectation of myself that I should look like the perfect relationship partner… but, like… that’s not super realistic. Have I always been a great partner? Of course not. Has my heart been shattered into a million trillion pieces? Ohhh yeah. Does that disqualify me from being effective ..read more

Bread crumbs. They’re delicious crunchy bits of carby goodness. They enhance basically any recipe, they can be used to manipulate small winged creatures into being your friend, and they’re superb for abandoning small German children in witch-infested forests. Recently though, the term has been used to describe crumby behavior on dating apps. What is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing is the act of giving someone just enough attention to maintain interest without any real intent to follow through. Sound familiar? Let me give you a few examples: They ignore your advances until you start to move on ..read more

I’ve heard the phrase “fear is a powerful motivator” a million times... And sure, it can be. If you’re trapped in a burning building, the fear of being burned alive can push you into crawling out the window to scale the outside wall. The fear of choking to death will have you body-slamming yourself into the furniture, broken ribs be damned. But fear can also make us stupid. It can make us selfish. And it can paralyze us. To be honest, I think the whole “fear is a powerful motivator” thing is bullshit.  How Does Fear Affect Us? Have you ever heard of the instinctive drowning response? Basi ..read more

Sometimes I feel like being a dating consultant is kinda like being a Medium. I can’t fight the evil spirits for you. I just do my best to warn you and sometimes I have to watch you get eaten for lunch. So, welcome to my instructional guide for how to recognize when the person you’re dating is literally a demon. Me: I know you like her, but she sounds kinda like a demon. Client: What? No, you just don’t understand her like I do.  Me: You’ve caught her standing over your bed at night, floating a few feet above the ground, sucking out your soul. Client: She was just having a really rou ..read more

Expensive Restaurant: She’s cute, smart, and geez louise look at that ass. You should totally impress her by spending an egregious amount of money on dinner… or you could just calm the hell down. There are tons of girls that treat dating apps like Uber Eats. She’ll eat her expensive dinner and then carry that smokin’ ass right on back to her house. Or, if she’s a decent human being, you may just end up making her feel uncomfortable. It can feel a little weird for a guy to spend $100+ on me for a first date. It can create a sense of obligation that makes the whole situation uncomfortable. It do ..read more

What would happen if I wrote my weekly blog high AF (on prescribed meds for a temporary & legitimate reason)? Buckle up because we’re about to find out!! The Doctor once said, “Never run when you’re scared, rule number 7!” I don’t remember the first six rules, but the 7th is a pretty good one. He’s right, you shouldn’t run away from things you’re afraid of (unless there’s a Grizzly Bear, he’ll fuck your shit up if you don’t get out of there. I’m from the South, I know my bear facts.). Now you might be asking, “How are a Doctor Who quote and a bear fact related to a dating blog?” Well, jus ..read more