How important is finding compatibility to you when dating? When seeking a life partner, you don’t want to choose anyone. You wanna find someone you’re compatible with, but what does that mean? The word compatible is where two things are able to exist or occur together without problem or conflict. There are some things that you don’t want to mix together such as baking soda and vinegar, or bleach and rubbing alcohol. When you combine these chemicals they create something that is toxic and unsafe. This is also true in relationships. The reality is some people don’t mix well. When you put them to ..read more

Disagreements, frustrations and disappointments are impossible to avoid in relationships. Although we can’t avoid disagreements and frustrations in relationships, it doesn’t mean they have to turn into arguments. Disagreements aren’t the same as arguments. An argument occurs when two sides are approaching a disagreement in unhealthy and unproductive ways. An arguing couple in most cases isn’t seeking resolution, rather they are seeking to be right or prove someone wrong. Bad relationship arguments go to the next level, with extremes of yelling, name calling, or shutting down? Normally both sid ..read more

Have you ever found yourself frustrated or disappointed when dating? A disappointment is a negative feeling that results from something not living up to an expectation. When we open up ourselves to romantic interests (e.i. dating) we normally have some form of hope or expectation. An expectation to meet someone we like, where feelings are mutual, and a lasting relationship is formed. Unfortunately, like many journeys getting to the destination can be a long and bumpy ride with unexpected challenges. It’s difficult to avoid disappointments when dating! So what does a person do? Do you just not ..read more

What does it mean to be honest about your Relationship mistakes? A mistake can be intentional or unintentional but the key is, it’s wrong. It is a form of behavior that is either dishonest, unjust, or immoral and often violates another. In life and in relationships we make mistakes, the question is, what is our response once we commit them. For some, the urge is to ignore their wrongdoings, make excuses, or even worse blaming others. This is a form of self-deception and will lead to someone repeating the same relationship mistakes over and over again. Recently in an interview Shaquille O’Neal ..read more

Any solid entity needs a solid foundation or anchor to bring it stability. Consider for a moment a ship without an anchor. It would find itself fighting against the current, drifting from place to place unable to remain in one place. Consider a home and the destruction that would follow after a storm if it lacked a strong foundation. This is no different in relationships. People want strong healthy relationships, but they find themselves drifting and shaken after the storms of life. What is stabilizing your relationship? There are many practical things that we can do to help bring stability to ..read more

Why is it when a woman chooses a man that is deemed undesirable by the world, people attack her character, assuming there’s an ulterior motive? As if her motives can’t be pure driven from the heart and wisdom. Recently on a podcast Channing Crowder attacked the character of Ciara and Russell Wilson. In his podcast Channing proclaimed that the only reason Ciara is with Russell Wilson is because of his money. In summary Channing felt Ciara’s EX rapper Future was a better catch, and that Russell Wilson was a square. Sadly, Channing contributed to the insinuating idea women are only with nice guys ..read more

Have you ever made a rash decision that you regretted later. In life we all have moments or things where we are urged to loose control. This could be something common such as an act of cutting someone off in a moment of road rage, or it could be something uncommon such as a violent attack upon a cheating spouse. In the case of Will Smith, it was going on stage at the Oscars and hitting Chris Rock. The point is out-of-control behavior is something we all must be on guard against.  Learn from vs Judge from It’s easy on the outside to look at another persons negative behavior and be self-rig ..read more

To celebrate or not celebrate Valentine’s Day, that is the question? Just because something is a cultural norm, it doesn’t mean it has to be a normal practice for you. Valentines Day is a national celebrated holiday, but its value varies from person to person. Some people love it, the romance, the gifts and special attention that comes with it. Yet for others, the day doesn’t mean as much. It’s not to say they don’t enjoy romance, gifts, or special treatment. It just doesn’t have to be on that day. How do you keep something pure when it becomes commercialized? In this podcast we desire to have ..read more

Dating can be a rollercoaster!!! There are moments in the dating process where you have emotional highs. You meet new people, you meet someone you like, you get to know that person, and maybe it turns into a something special. Yet, there are also the lows. You can’t find a date, you meet bad people, or find yourself rejected. What is your approach to dating successfully? Do you have dating goals? When dating, a major mistake people make is they do it aimlessly. They don’t really have a plan or target, but just hope for the best, hoping to meet the one! As you set new year resolutions for 2022 ..read more

It’s often said in sports, “if you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.” I believe this saying is not only true in sports, but in relationships. As a spouse you should always be seeking to grow. How can you be a better husband? How can you be a better wife? One way to be intentional to grow in your relationship is by setting marriage goals, and what better time to set goals, than in the New Year. If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit nothing! New Year Resolutions are a great way to start a new year. A person has an opportunity to reflect on their past. Consider things that went well, thing ..read more