Anger is such a normal (and common) response for women after a breakup, especially if you were fully invested, got cheated or had to face a sense of injustice. I’ve heard this over and over from my clients- “I’m so angry at my ex. What do I do?” Well, sister. read on to find out why anger is common, acceptable, AND how you can deal with it wisely. Now who doesn’t know that feeling, amiright? Days and months after my breakup, I experienced so much anger. There were days when I missed my ex and wanted him to come back. Other days, all I wanted was to scream violently for all the hurt he gave me ..read more

Writing about what’s in your head is known to be therapeutic. It’s like all your thoughts have a way to leave your mind space. And when you’re done, you can go back and read through your thought process. You can gain clarity and insight into patterns of your thinking. You brain doesn’t have to hold its pants and run helter-skelter anymore. Read on to find 25 (and a few bonus) simple journal prompts that will give you insight and clarity with everything that is in your head. Forming the habit of journaling was one of the many good things that happened to me after my breakup. For someone who has ..read more

Is this another one of those articles on the internet where people tell you to “think positively” No. Will this article finally get you to quit the ice cream bucket in bed and tears for 12 days scene? Most likely (if you want it to) Read on to find out 5 major truths (everything) you need to know about those feelings after your break-up. Answer this question for me: Who are you without your feelings? Probably a bag of bones. Your feelings are so beautiful a gift. They help you feel everything deeply, like the sunshine that warms you up on a cold morning and brings joy, or the intense satisfact ..read more

Too many times, I’ve met a guy who seems briefly interested in me. What I do immediately after, is convince myself he’s in love, and wants to marry me. The next few days I spend waiting and observing for signs that will confirm my shaky biased assumption. I’m then disappointed because he’s not what I thought he was. “He’s not what I want” is something I say all the time. Relatable, I know. Read on: 4 Things to look for in a man. But I’m proud of it- I don’t settle for. Ever. I do it because of an extremely useful ground rule I have. Ground rule: To find out if a man truly loves you, you need t ..read more

When something terrible happens, human beings do one of two things. One is to fight and resist it, the other is to run away from it. In the case of a relationship ending, the pain is the terrible thing. And from the fact that you’re reading this, I conclude you have/are experiencing deep hurt, and maybe you’re running away. This is evident through certain behaviors you might display- like the 3 we’re discussing today. Keep reading to find out what those 3 unhealthy coping mechanisms are and why you should never use them to heal after your break-up. What is a coping mechanism? Simple. A coping ..read more

Wondering how to get over your ex? I can’t stop telling my clients, my online community and everyone I speak to about the one true truth. And the truth is- Your breakup is not a guy problem. “Getting over” a man is not the solution to healing your pain. Pain always comes into our life with a set of possible lessons you can learn. Pain from a breakup can also teach you many things. So instead of obtaining closure or “moving on” and trying to forget some guy, what if we focused on more important goals that are centered around YOU? Moving on or getting over a guy will leave you in the same exact ..read more

If you’ve done the deed and googled breakup advice, you know the term no-contact. A lot of people whine about how hard it is. So what happens if I text my ex? Can I text my ex? How long should I wait? Is it OK if I follow my ex on Instagram? Can we be friends after the breakup? Can I skip no-contact? Stay, because the answers are here. This is what REALISTICALLY happens when you stay in touch with your ex We all know the forbidden fruit effect. They tell you to stay away from the fruit, to not want it. Right that moment, the fruit immediately gets tastier, juicier, and luscious. Fresh and swee ..read more

The Bible has a storefront of many characters who spent their lives simply, fulfilled their personal mission and led people to Christ quietly. Except maybe John the Baptist. Or dare I say John the screamer (see John 1:23) I’m not talking about being silent. Or tiptoeing around the house when your mom is sleeping. I’m talking about very little emotional pitter-patter, very little fearful panicking and very little questioning in the face of uncertainty, pain, change and utter suffering. So, let’s do some examples, yeah? Saint Joseph Not a word in the Bible ever credited to him. If I were him, I ..read more

Sometimes, TRUTHS are like ghosts- invisible. Until you make the effort to ACTUALLY see it. Because the ultimate truth of your break-up is this: If he wanted to be with you, he would’ve been. Simple. But I feel you. It’s not that simple.Your Breakup situation is as messy as a baby eating his first solid meal. It is a serious job to navigate through your varied emotions, all the overthinking, the pain, overpowering feelings pf rejection, abandonment and about a 100 other problems. Your thoughts can clouds your judgement and it can be hard to think rationally and logically. And trust me when I s ..read more

This is a poem I wrote on one of my difficult nights back in 2019. I couldn’t be more troubled. My plans were collapsing one after another. I knew I needed to […] The post YOU- a poem about God appeared first on Journal of Judith ..read more