TAKING ONE STEP IN THE DIRECTION OF HEALING
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by Jennifer
2w ago
Often there is a gap between recognizing abusive behavior and both knowing what you want and taking steps toward it. This blog identifies four common obstacles to taking one step in the direction of healing. One step will lead to another.    Fear Taking one step in the direction of healing confronts you with fear. […] The post TAKING ONE STEP IN THE DIRECTION OF HEALING appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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HOW TO START OVER WITH A HEART FULL OF PAIN
Madison Mental Health Counselor Blog
by Jennifer
1M ago
The holidays are painful when you’ve experienced a loss, including ending an abusive relationship. You may wonder how to start over, to create a life free of abuse. Though January is a time when many want a fresh beginning, it isn’t just a matter of setting goals or resolutions when you’ve left an abusive relationship. […] The post HOW TO START OVER WITH A HEART FULL OF PAIN appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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HOW TO OVERCOME BARRIERS TO HEALING
Madison Mental Health Counselor Blog
by Jennifer
2M ago
Safety issues and concerns about the best interests of children were barriers to healing mentioned in Healing and Creating a New Life. This blog addresses two important ones that affect safety and family welfare. It ends with a list of resources to help overcome barriers to healing. They help you know the best ways to […] The post HOW TO OVERCOME BARRIERS TO HEALING appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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HEALING AND CREATING A NEW LIFE
Madison Mental Health Counselor Blog
by Jennifer
3M ago
Healing and creating a new life after abuse are multi-faceted processes. Often, they feel overwhelming. You usually begin the work of creating before you’re healed, so that makes it harder. Here are steps to navigate your path.     Take Space First, allow yourself space to reflect on your partner’s behavior and how it aligns with […] The post HEALING AND CREATING A NEW LIFE appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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OVERWHELMED BY POLITICS? HOW TO EMPOWER YOURSELF
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by Jennifer
5M ago
Survivors of intimate partner abuse sometimes say they feel overwhelmed by politics. For that matter, many of us do. Overwhelm is a rational response to destructive forms of conflict. A client example: “I can’t listen to my legislator because they talk like my abusive ex.” I view survivors as “canaries in the coal mine” of […] The post OVERWHELMED BY POLITICS? HOW TO EMPOWER YOURSELF appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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THE TIME IT TAKES TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
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by Jennifer
6M ago
The time it takes to leave an abusive relationship is the time you need, so let go of any shame or embarrassment about it. Leaving is not the simple, black and white process many think it is. In order to overcome barriers such as gas-lighting, danger, lack of resources, isolation, and self-esteem injuries, you have […] The post THE TIME IT TAKES TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR
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by Jennifer
7M ago
Repeated abuse changes how you think about yourself and your abilities. Recovery work includes releasing destructive beliefs and the instilled fear produced by abuse. The post HOW TO STOP LIVING IN FEAR appeared first on Madison Mental Health Counselor ..read more
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TELL SOMEONE ABOUT ABUSE
Madison Mental Health Counselor Blog
by Jennifer
8M ago
Deciding to tell someone about abuse by a partner is difficult. Many survivors feel embarrassed and anxious about how someone will respond. They may worry they won’t be believed, and unfortunately, this is sometimes the case. If close friends, family, or professionals disregard or downplay what you tell them, emotions run the gamut of disappointment, frustration, hurt, shock, betrayal, and outrage—and maybe all of these. Unfortunately, individuals and society in general often disbelieve victims. It’s not the subject of this article, but Why They Try to Fix You touches on this. Do not allow an ..read more
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GASLIGHT SECURITY BEGINS WITH SOCIAL, GROUNDING, AND BOUNDARY SUPPORT
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by Jennifer
9M ago
Gaslight security protects you from believing what gas-lighters say. Gaslight security begins with recognizing it. Merriam-Webster’s definition of gaslighting: “psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories.” It causes confusion, loss of self-esteem, and uncertainty of one’s mental stability.” Gaslighting may seem easy to identify but it is not, particularly within an intimate relationship. Since you are human and make mistakes as we all do, you may take ..read more
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ACCEPT WHAT YOU SEE TO REGAIN YOUR POWER
Madison Mental Health Counselor Blog
by Jennifer
10M ago
Acceptance of the reality of what is allows you to honor yourself and your perceptions. Relationships should promote self-love. To regain your power allows you to love yourself. To regain your power in an abusive relationship, you must name what is happening and accept it. Accept what is. Despite how painful that is. Accepting does not mean you approve, agree, or are okay with it. It is also not forgetting or pretending the abuse didn’t occur. Acceptance does involve giving up excuses for your partner’s behavior or trying to convince them to change. Firing yourself from the job of helping them ..read more
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