Make your own red light special Getting sexy just for you In my teens I was getting cute for boys. I wanted a cute boy to notice my new dress and my box braids. Twenties, I wanted to be noticed by boys, but there was another layer. I wanted my girlfriends and any lady on the street to say, “she’s hot.” “I luurve her outfit.” “Woah, I love her style and vibe.” “She is a vibe” Thirties – I want my husband to think I’m sexy. I want him to want me and only me. I want to look in the mirror with my changing body and growing responsibilities and think, daaaamn this women is sexy. I’m hot and sexy. Mm ..read more

Created by Sweet Butter Harmony for the Atlanta based Bookclub: Books Brunch & Black Women I had a hard time finding discussion questions for the book Will, so I created discussion questions to share with all book clubs. I hope you enjoy the book and the discussion as much as we did! Discussion Questions Is this book overrated or underrated? Would you want to read another book by Will Smith? Will speaks about feeling like a coward. He said the feeling of cowardice stemmed from the physical abuse between his mother and father. Will felt like he was not able to save his mother from Dadio’s ..read more

Face your fears and have some fun “Woah, this is high” That’s what I thought and said out loud when I walked up the plastic steps and tentatively sat in the saddle. It’s been over 15 years since I last rode a horse. At that time I was young, fearless, and ready for any adventure that came my way. Now at 33, I think twice before trying the go kart, going down the water slide or diving into a new thing I haven’t done before. Suddenly, I’m wondering am I safe up here? Will this horse buck and throw me off. Will I somehow end up with a broken back and in a wheelchair like the old school superman ..read more

Getting sexy just for you In my teens I was getting cute for boys. I wanted a cute boy to notice my new dress and my box braids. Twenties, I wanted to be noticed by boys, but there was another layer. I wanted my girlfriends and any lady on the street to say, “she’s hot.” “I luurve her outfit.” “Woah, I love her style and vibe.” “She is a vibe” Thirties – I want my husband to think I’m sexy. I want him to want me and only me. I want to look in the mirror with my changing body and growing responsibilities and think, daaaamn this women is sexy. I’m hot and sexy. Mmmmm mmmm good. Do you ever feel ..read more

Depression How can you be happy when you always feel sad? I’m typically happy. I’m self-assured and I’ve lived a pretty good life. I’ve gone through some things and seen some things. I know that this too shall pass and a lot can be healed with time, a pint of Ben & Jerry’s and a little fresh air. With Depression, I fell into a sea of blackness. I floated there in dark stillness. I felt isolated and alone in a meaningless world. For the first time in my life, I felt a deep sense of nothingness. I felt like I was stuck and nothing I tried to do would change my life situation. I wasn’t just l ..read more

Antidepressants help dogs and their humans feel better Disclaimer: This is my personal experience with Prozac and not a paid ad. I am not a doctor or therapist. Please consult your doctor to see if antidepressants are a good option for you. My Dog Took Prozac Brutus = My fluffy white dog. A bichon that looked like a toy poodle He suffered from separation anxiety. When I went to work, he barked for 8 hours straight. I got noise complaints from my neighbors and I was about 2 noise complaints away from getting kicked out of my apartment. He was a rescue and he needed a little TLC. I Tried Everyt ..read more

The things I lost with depression: Disclaimer: This post contains triggering information about major depression and suicide. MY LOVE OF COOKING MY MOTIVATION TO EXERCISE I found myself buying more Uber Eats and Door Dash than ever before. How did I ever live before? How amazing is it for any type of food you love to be delivered right to your door?? My belly has grown, and the pounds on the scale have crept up so much, that I don’t even waste time looking anymore. I’m just living extra thickalicious and all. MY EASYGOING SMILE MY DESIRE TO CONNECT WITH FRIENDS Hmmm… I don’t feel like going out ..read more

In 2020, I read for hours and hours each week. I read magazines (thanks to my $2 blue dolphin subscriptions, best thing EVA) I read almost 30 novels via paper books and audiobooks. I read countless articles and blogs online. I also became a blogger lol. 2021 – I forgot what reading was all over again. I’ve reach about 4 books all year. (what happened?) Live got busy again, and I was out in the streets! Shopping, eating, and drinking. Unfortunately, I left behind my favorite past time, sinking into the couch with a good book. Now, I’m committed to reading again. Not just reading, but reading bo ..read more

depression, melancholy, misery, sadness, unhappiness, sorrow A quick google search will show several definitions of depression, but how do you know if you are going through depression and not just a bad day? We casually say “I’m depressed, (sad face)” but depression is not a bad mood. It’s not easily fixed with a good meal or catnap. Depression is weeks or months of sorrow. It affects your ability to function in everyday tasks. And even though it’s serious, major depression is surprisingly a common mental health issue. About 21 million U.S. adults—8.4% of the population—had at least one major ..read more

Before I started vision boarding, (Yes I believe in vision boarding. I hosted a vision boarding partay and it was LIT!) Anyway, before vision boarding, I just wrote out my goals on a sheet of paper. Then it turned into a goal doc; I would type a bulleted list of all my goals for the year. Then my goals got more detailed, with details, progress reports, and dates of accomplishment highlighted in pink. Should I tell people my goals? The first step to making a goal is writing it down and giving it life. For some goals, I have never mentioned them to anyone, it’s just between me, my goal list, and ..read more