Imposter syndrome is the FALSE belief that your normal human feelings of anxiety, doubts, etc are because there is something wrong with you.  Not true.  You're fine.  It's the belief that you're not already good enough that is the imposter.  Not you.   Tune in this week to learn the simple strategies to break the mental habit of feeling like you're not good enough so that you can feel more confident, quit proofreading your emails multiple times, start speaking up, and enjoying your many accomplishments.   Let's connect:  You can find me on instagram at allie ..read more

The truth of the matter is that, as a Mom, I worked myself out of a job.  They will always need my love.  And I theirs.  But they don’t need me.  And there is a grief there that is true.  Over the loss of identity.   I don’t regret building my life around them.  If I had it to do over again, I wouldn’t change a thing.   But it's time to both acknowledge the impact I've had on my kids and to pick a new focus. Sign up for my list here.  You'll be the first to know about Project Joy and other great stuff ..read more

I'm a big fan of maternal intuition (Mom's wisdom).  But when are you being guided by intuition and when is it just a brain fart?  An old story or unconscious bias?  Tune in this week to learn a quick test to sort out when you're getting information that is helpful vs. following an unconscious bias that will hold you back. We spring clean our houses.  Empty our closets and sort out things that no longer fit.  So let's give our brain the same opportunity to start the spring by letting go of old grudges, stories about our past mistakes and habits that we are ready to cha ..read more

Many parents want my help in getting their kids to tell them what's really going on in their lives.  They do this both because they want connection and they see it as a way to keep their kids safe. Tune in this week to find out the secret to getting your kids to talk to you about things that really matter. If you'd like to learn more about how having support could help YOU, we should talk.  Click here to schedule a time to tell me what's going on and what you'd like to change.  We'll talk about how we could make that happen. If you'd like to support the podcast (thank you!!!), c ..read more

Sometimes we get into situations where we feel a little over our heads.  Tune in this week to learn 2 strategies to make those situations easier to bear. 1.  Relentlessly being your own compassionate witness. 2.  Borrowing someone else's belief in you when your own faith in yourself is a little shaky. If you want a coach on your side to help you navigate a challenging situation, we should talk.  Click here to schedule a free, 45 minute call to explore what having support could do for you. You'll leave the call with a clear idea of your next steps and feeling like it was tim ..read more

We live in a world that is more conducive to anxiety than play.  So play won’t necessarily feel good enough to entice you away from work until you rewire your brain for more joy. Your brain will say "oh you can go do that when you send that email...finish the dishes..." (get your work done) But your brain is a liar. She's a snake oil salesman. Your work will never be done. It will expand to fit your available time. Tune in this week to find out why play doesn't feel more enticing and what to do about that. Wanna play more?  Need help with those pesky, joy-stealing thoughts?  Gra ..read more

You can give what you don't have.  Moms do it all the time.  You read news stories of moms lifting hundreds of pounds when their kid is trapped.  Or Ben Carson's mom making Ben and his brother write 2 book reports a week for her, even though she couldn't read! We moms are resourceful and I love that about us. But all that giving causes us to go into a kind of Mom debt. This week, I'll unpack what that is and how to not let Mom Debt spin out of control. Please take advantage of the Change Any Habit February Special by clicking here ..read more

You don't have a photographic memory and neither do I.  But we still place a lot of stock in our memories to be reliable and it turns out they are not.   Memory is a creative process.  We change our memories, every time we think about them. Tune in this week to find out how memory REALLY works and how to use this information to your advantage. To take advantage of the 30 minute free session offer, do one of these 3 things by midnight, February 5th.   1.  Rate the podcast on Apple and a screen shot to allie@allieirwin.com 2.  Write a couple sentence revie ..read more

My family had a recent "hiccup" that turns out is very common mishap with the young adult crowd.  And it showed me how far we've come. So often parents come to me thinking that I'm going to take their problems away.   Nope.  I would if I could but that's not real life. I'm going to teach you how to stay connected to your own wisdom so that you can do what YOU know needs to be done.  Sounds worse, but I promise it's better. If you'd like to support the show through Patreon click here. Want to learn more about what having me in your corner with 1:1 personal support?  ..read more

Many times parenting just feels too hard for too little reward.  So this week I share the framework I use to figure out where I'm out of balance so that I can get back to enjoying my family. That’s what I want for you. I want you to LOVE this phase of your life.  And the next one, and the next one.  I want you to be happy now. And if you want that too, Click here to book a free call where we will sort out what’s going on for you and make a plan. And if this podcast helped you think about parenting in a new way, please subscribe so that YOU don’t miss an episode and share it with ..read more