Developing robust habits is an important part of a building successful life. When habits are deeply ingrained they support you to reach your goals without having to push through limbic friction. Limbic friction is the resistance you feel when you struggle to do something new or challenging. Deeply ingrained good habits are like positive addictions.  Unavoidable Stress Sometimes it’s not possible to address the underlying causes of stress head-on. Some stressful issues are the result of a choice to meet one need at the expense of another for a while. Here are some examples of wh ..read more

Is “I hate my job” the first thing that you think when you wake up in the morning? Maybe it’s the last thing you think before going to sleep? Maybe it’s stopping you from sleeping altogether? Do you just not want to do it anymore? Is it causing you to feel anxious, depressed and sad? Maybe you’re bored, need more freedom, or to be better compensated for your time?  Hell on Wheels Stuck & Miserable? When your job feels like hell on wheels, why not get a medical certificate from your doctor and take a week’s sick leave to sort yourself out? If that doesn’t work for you, could y ..read more

Some days, you’re just not feeling it. You might be feeling tired, sad and unmotivated. Other days you start off feeling great but the wheels seem to fall off: you get stuck in traffic, something goes wrong at work, or you have a fight with a significant other.  The Only Thing You Can Do There will always be things in your life that you can’t control. What you can control is your response. The quicker that you can bring some intention to your response the quicker you can get your day back into a positive shape. Each time something goes in a way that you’d prefer it didn’t is an opportuni ..read more

Being unbalanced in the way you approach your work and your home life can cause unecessary, excessive stress. Using Choice Theory principles it’s possible to create a Wonderful work-life balance. Use the Principles of Choice Theory to Create a Beautiful Work-life Balance You know that having an unbalanced work and home life is stressful, unhealthy, and ultimately unsustainable. I’m sure you’ve heard lots about the importance of maintaining a healthy work/ life balance. But what does it actually mean? And how do you do it? It probably means something unique to everyone. But the two most importa ..read more

Basic Intensive training is the first step in recognised Choice Theory Training. It is transformational psychological training that can be used as professional development in many fields and provides: – • A framework to understand human behaviour, and assist in making effective interventions at the point of greatest leverage. • Learning at both a simple practical level and also at a level that can assist profound shifts in human behaviour and motivation. • A thorough understanding of the idea that nearly all behaviour is chosen and that we are responsible for our choices. Who Will Benefit From ..read more

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels To practice mindfulness for stress is to practice being fully present in the moment. When you do this, it’s not possible to be stressed. Unless of course, you’re under immediate physical threat. There is rarely anything to fear in the present. Most stress, anxiety, and fear is tied up with imaginings about the future. Initially, It’s good to practice mindfulness when you’re not particularly stressed. Do this and you’ll be able to use it to reduce high stress levels when you need to. The Short-Term Physiology of Stress When you bring your awareness to what ..read more

There’s no doubt that excess stress is a major health concern. But stress in itself shouldn’t be an excuse for low productivity. In fact, you can optimize stress to optimize productivity. Healthy levels of stress can actually make you stronger, more resilient, more creative and more productive. This is called eustress. It’s the kind of stress that athletes use to fuel their performance and stay in what they call “the zone”. Too little stress can be just as anti-productive as too much stress. This is the reasoning behind some very wealthy people not leaving great wealth to their children. Ther ..read more

And now to a topic for those with prostate cancer and their partners. This is a topic which is important and for some very emotional. What about sex after prostate surgery? My own journey is just that, mine. What I experienced and continue to experience is unique. Nevertheless, there’ something in every person’s individual journey for each of us to take away. Sex After a Radical Prostatectomy (Non-nerve-sparing) I had a radical robotic prostatectomy on November 30/2020. For those reading who don’t know, a radical prostatectomy is different from a nerve-sparing robot prostatectomy. After nerve ..read more

Everyone agrees that confidence is important but far fewer people seem to have solid advice on how to become more confident. External events and outcomes can increase or decrease your confidence. You have no control over those externals except in the way you choose to respond. Stronger self-confidence creates better responses. So here they are, 11 ways of building self-confidence you can start implementing today.  1. Make your Relationship with the Most Important Person in Your Life the Best it can be William Glasser said that everything is a relationship issue. What you probably for ..read more

Do you feel stressed and anxious because your life seems out of your control? Believing that you are ever really in control of your life is a fantasy. There’s only ever one thing in life that can you control, that’s you and that’s enough. We often measure wellbeing against how “in control” we feel. That’s fine as long as we remember that the only thing we can really control is ourselves. When life is peaceful, predictable, and going along nicely it’s relatively easy to be in control of your thoughts and emotions. But it doesn’t take much for that control to jump right out the window. The pand ..read more